Weezer1982

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I think my sex drive is way higher than my girlfriends's. I can probably do it every single day and all night. She isn't always in the mood due to many reasons. "Im tired" or "We need to be more productive" are some common excuses. Anyone else in my shoes?

Greven359

I think most guys feel that way.

Queso

I know plenty of girls that feel that way. They're wanting a lot more than their bf's (and in one case gf) are putting out.

flaker

I agree I seem to want it much more than my wife does.

fmb

Yeah, I think this is a common problem amongst couples. Did you know this before ya'll became long term?? I've learned to ask lots of questions and listen to them answers. Sometimes, you may hear something you really need to know.

cm8

I can say that I know exactly how you feel. My husband is always tired, but he is not tired enough to get himself off. He doesn't even bring me to orgasm, but I still fake it too make him feel like he pleases me. He doesn't even like to use his hands or mouth. That part sucks! He did more than that to other women b4 we married, but now that we are married he won't even do any of that stuff and we did b4 we were married. I'm not un attractive nor do I have bad hygiene. I think he loves his porn more than he loves to please me. I used to give him head and give it to him when he wanted it, now I don't even get wet for him anymore, It's like I would rather not waste my time getting prep for something that may or may not happen. I usually end up pleasuring myself about 6 times a day and thinking about having an affair for the sex part. I know that sounds bad, but hey, I have needs to and that battery thing is making me numb! LOL, so I totally understand what you are going through.

Weezer1982

cm8-You need to talk to your husband! Well I'm sure you have already. I don't want my sex life to be over if I marry her so I will have to figure something out. Thanks guys.

flaker

From what I've noticed my wife is alot more interested in different positions than I am but still if left to my wife I am sure we would only be having sex once a month whereas I want it once a week at least. Definitely there seems to something missing. My wife's favorite excuse seems to be that shes tired which in a way I can see (we do have 4 kids ) but when you see all the energy she puts into the kids and consistantantly there is nothing left for me. As far as I am concerned this problem gets worse as you get older.

kingtutatl

I get the "All you care about is Sex" line all the time. I would love to have sex with my gf everyday of the year but she has different ideas. I'm lucky to get it twice a week. I just hope this is not an indicator of what our love life will be like in 20 years.

@man2girlz

actually i've had this question come up in my mind a few times too. here's an interesting idea though, does anyone have that nagging feeling that your girl not wanting sex is related to some poor memory she has of the past sex, or is this some neurosis that i'm exclusive in experiencing? it seems that not having this re-enforcement can ruin any subsequent sex that will follow...

not to derail, answer to op: yes! hehe

my $.02

fmb

There are lots of reasons why she may not enjoy or have the desire for the amount of sex you seek. Listen to her. What does she say about the subject? About past experiences?

Sometimes, the answers are right in front of us but we don't see them.

If this is the standard now, what makes you think it will change??

What will your sex relationship be like in twenty years? Are you willing to accept the answer?

Zileas

When I first started with my current girl, she wanted it every minute of every day. Maybe it's my fault for always putting her off, but now we only go at it occaisionally.

It seems to be pretty hit and miss, just gotta keep searching until you find someone with a compatable sex drive.

I've had some great and some horrible sex though, and usually one bad memory isn't enough to kill future attempts. Now, if you've had years of bad sex with your wife, then maybe that's something you should look into, because that very well could be her problem.... :P

malichi

I have a very high sex drive and so does my female best friend. She is married and at the time so was I. I always complained about my wife not ever wanting to do it and she complained the same about her husband. So eventually she and I got together and everytime we were around each other we were touching and ending up screwing one another. We had discussed everything before we got involved and laid down some rules. But in the end she felt like she was getting attached and so she backed out of the arrangement.

I did miss it for a while and then I met this hispanic chick that was short and slim and loved anal. I forgot all about my friend. The hispanic chick ended up getting all crazy on me and so I left her alone and now I am with this cuban chick.

I have no complaints about her as she handles everything I need and wants it as much as I can give and I like to give a lot so we both are happy.

So all I can say is IF you have a high drive and the other person isnt doing it for you then I dont think you will be happy. I know I wasnt.

clamsrus

People are all so very different their sexual needs. For many years we have had a mismatch, and while she only occasionally wanted sex, it was always a case of near instant gratification for her whether by hand , mouth or intercourse. Never more than about five minutes and never seconds.
In recent times she has gone onto Prozac because of stress associated with several family losses....she no longer wakes every day with apprehension....and lo and behold....she is hard to arouse although definitely more interested than she has ever been in the whole of our time together. Initially she went to the GP and said it was a small price to pay for feeling so much better, and acknowledges that the depressive tendencies are brain based, chemical and genetic.....

but in recent times she has been receptive to sexual advances and has even initiated (to some of you that just sounds weird, I know) which is totally unheard of.....and it is me getting the shagger's back, repetitive strain injuries, and the lock jaw, bringing her off! Not that you will detect even a hint of complaint from me.

What I'm trying to illustrate here is that it is seldom as simple as it seems, and even though I love her to bits, there have been moments when I have despaired, and thought I'd never have a "normal "sex life.
Without the other aspects of our relationship I don't think any healthy male would choose to maybe have intercourse 3 or four times a year, an occaisional and grudging hand job, and once or twice a blow job when she was on a diet and the food thing was getting to her...