Sheepe

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Hi there,
I'm new here, the internet and lack of sleep is making me feel "brave", so I've decided to dump my troubles here.

My problem is that I'm faced with the question "Should I go for it?" or rather, Should I get laid now and have my first relationship later, or wait?

Okay so that didn't explain very much. I'm 18.5 years old finishing Senior year. I'm a nerdy, gamer-type that really doesn't get out much. I've never had any sort of relationship or action beyond a kiss on the cheek. I'm a romantic idealist, seriously awkward in social situations, and clearly suffer from NGS (Nice Guy Syndrom).

My situation is that I now have an opportunity to get laid, no strings attached, clean and scott free. Shes rather average, no standards (according to her (seriously)), and "clean". My problem with this is that I feel I'm more of a relationship type guy, but have never had one.

So here I am asking, what should I do now?

-Sheepe

kulotsalot

I vote for "get it over with".

gman80

dude get out there and just fuck till your little heart is content. --> romantic idealist <-- that shit right there.... thats some bullshit!

Queso

just do whatever your mind/heart/whatever tells you. if it doesn't feel right to you then don't do it. if you don't mind remembering back years later of your first time being some random, meaningless, no strings attached fling then go for it

powder19

go for it...it should help your confidence as you get out of highschool and go to college, hopefully gettin the monkey off your back will help you in the social scene

poohbah

yes get laid, when you are 18 you can't have a serious relationship. nothing is serious till you are at least 23. If you get in to a relationship, the only thing you will think about is fucking some one else.

Bigeme

I can't really give you advice. I agree with you and I am pretty much of the same type. My personally story is I got to college and just said fuck it and fucked a rando. I regretted it for a long time. I think when I did finally get into a serious relationship (about a year later) it helped ease the pressure of the whole situation.

I don't know. I could tell you tons of things that say bitches are bitches and fuck them if you can, but I could just as easily tell you how much it means to me personally to make love to someone I feel close to.

Ultimately, don't do it just because. Be careful who you do get into a relationship with. No matter what anyone tells you, sex is never just sex. There is no such thing as no strings attached. Conversely, be careful who you do get into relationships with. You don't want to wait until you find a special person and have them tear your heart out.

Like I said, I can't tell you what to do. Honestly, though, I feel in very much the same place you are now. I've been with a few girls, but I feel like I did when I was a virgin and about to go into college. Should I fuck around? Should I wait until I find someone who is important to me? Right now I lean towards waiting because I would hope that the girls that I fuck in my life care the same way I do about their relationships so I owe it to them more than anything else. Do I want to fuck 20 girls? Sure. Do I want a girl thats fucked 20 guys. No way. So I think it's only fair that I be selective in my judgement.

Cliffs: One night stands will make you feel empty. It's really not any different after having lost your virginity. Do what you would want your girlfriend to have done in a similar situation.

umpire00

You should do whatever feels right. You don't want to have any regrets about the decision that you will make. Trust yourself and everything will turn out fine.

Juan.©amaney

wow, if some broad came up to me and told me no strings attached sex, I'd be all over it. Although it seldom is no strings attached, if you can get away with it and you're horny and need a piece of ass, go for it. If its gonna mess with your feelings, you might want to rethink stuff.

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skept

My advice would just be repeating exactly this.

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kulotsalot

I should probably qualify my post, eh?

I'd say "go for it" in the sense that you should probably quit trying to find that perfect moment, perfect person, perfect relationship, etc. I thing that "getting it over with" will truly help you in the self-esteem department. A lot of guys who go past a certain age (let's say 21ish?) without having gotten it over with earlier in life realize that OH MY GOD pretty much every other person out there has had some sort of sexual experience, they know absolutely nothing, and coupling that with the whole gamer/nerd persona will just result in much anxiety when dealing with chicks in general, and when trying to go for more than friends, in particular.

Unless something horrific happens during this no-strings-attached deal which totally smashes your self-esteem to pieces, chances are that this will be the point where you go "oh, sex isn't that mystical" which in turn will help you out in the relationship dept. in the future, when the right lady comes along.

siopawman

go for it.

opportunity only knocks once. it twice, then you're really lucky.

nothing to lose on your part, and more to gain. you learn from her, she learns from you. just don't take it seriously, but if it goes serious, let her know.

Sheepe

Thanks for all the... ahem... advice. I'll probably go for it once I get over this damn sickness I just got. (I'm not the 'spread the love' around type). If I do, theres a good chance I'll regret it. If I don't, theres a better chance I'll regret it. Again, thanks for the advice, it gave me... a different perspective... from that of my friends
Actually, I was just looking for a relationship, period. Or something of the sort... but eh...
I have anxiety issues when dealing with most people... even talking to people I'll never see again... but thats my own issue...

Again, thanks for the various viewpoints...
However if something horrific does happen, I'll be sure to blame you all first
As such, I bid you adieu and goodnight. (Cause I'm so damn fancy with words)

-Sheepe

kulotsalot

Oh yeah... better condomize that shit or make sure she gets tested and is actually clean.