Spoiler90

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hey guys, and gals. I had a question about something that seems to be becoming a problem.

I dont think i am getting my girlfriend to cum. She is the first and only girl i have ever been with so im not experianced with sex at all. we have been dating for a long time, almost 4 years. sex is complicated. we never really had vaginal sex for a while, almost a year. before it was all handjobs and fingering. every once in a while i would put my penis in, but we were both too worried about getting her pregnant so we never would really thrust. anyway...we got to college and started using condoms a little (she cant get on birthcontrol yet) and now we are having vaginal sex.

i started eating her out about 3 years ago. but i dont think she is cumming. heres what happens.

we'll be going at it and i'll be fingering her and she'll be loving it etc. i'll be hitting the G spot and all that. but suddenly she will make me stop, she'll curl up into a ball and get emotional (she has only cried a few times). this happens 99% of the time.

recently it has been really close it seems, she gets to the climax and she will just make me stop suddenly and curl up into a ball. when i asked her about it she tells me that it hurts and when she is there (climax) she just doesnt know what to do. oh...about 80 to 90% of the time she tells me that it feels like she has to pee and makes me stop.

what am i doing wrong? i know every girl is different and all, but if there is some basic principals i am missing or she is missing i would be grateful if anyone could educate me. i appreciate it.

maggiesdragons

sounds like she is squirter, and instead of letting it out the pressure is hurting her. How long are you down there for? 10 mins and hour? Also, did she grow up with sexual abuse? religious family?

CD

she's a squirter. put a towel under her and tell her not to worry... it's not pee, and if she would just let it go, she'd have an unbelievable orgasm.

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zookiec90

if she is saying she has a feeling that she is about to pee she is on the verge of having a g spot orgasim.... i dated a girl for a while that had the exact same problem during sex... we would be doing great and she was climaxing and she would get to a certain point and just make me stop, or leave the room or whatever... i finally figured out that she though she was going to pee on me and she would have been so embaraced and yaddy yaddy yaddy....

so the next time we were having sex and i sensed that she was fixing to have the "peeing feeling" i told her to just do it i didnt care and i grabber her hips and made her keep going.... a few seconds later.... BLAMMMM!!!!! she had the most explosive orgasim i think i have ever seen, and yes females do have their own form of ejaculate and it can get rather wet down there in a heart beat.

my best advice to you is to sit her down and educate her on the g spot orgasim, then lay towel on the bed and go for it...... she will thank you for it!

good luck bro!

Spoiler90

it takes about 10 or 15 minutes from the start of fingering usually. has been as fast as 5 minutes though.

the squirter theory is where i put my money too. but, i tried to explain that to her and she didnt want to believe me. i told her to just let it go, even if it is just pee, but she wont. i'll keep trying. shes pretty upset about not getting to cum, so if i keep pressing her to try it i might succeed.

she grew up catholic. she claims that she doesnt masturbate...and im sure she doesnt. i told her how am i supposed to be able to pleasure her if she cant pleasure herself...lol.

anyway, i appreciate the feedback.

Dr. Weezil

Hmm, it also sounds like she's woefully ignorant of the workings of her own body, too. Being a Catholic is no excuse, to be frank. Much like men, women physically CAN'T urinate when sexually aroused, especially when near to orgasm. Try mentioning that to her when you're stuck in this situation.

I feel bad for you mate because unlike most scum-bags that are content to simply masturbate inside of a girl then pass out, you seem to genuinely care about your lady and want to basically blow her mind, for lack of a better term.

kulotsalot

I wholeheartedly disagree. We can, and I have. Sometimes, that gotta pee feeling really is just pee.

msub

Kulotsolot makes it rain on them...

My (now ex) girlfriend acted very much in the same way. I'd be fingering her and the bodily response from her was good, but once it got too intense she'd push me away telling me she felt like she was about to pee.

I showed her clips of Cytheria on "you porn" and that got her fascinated with the squirting phenomenon. She's even done her own research on the site without my assistance, haha.

Alas, I never got a chance to make her squirt while we were still together.

jShizz

Get her a vibrator.

Seriously.

It doesn't need to be some big crazy vibrating cock, good things come in small pacakages when it comes to sex toys. Once you get her to cum once, she won't be "afraid" anymore.

Eventually, it will come with experience and her knowing what to expect. The first time you really cum it's kinda scary, it's such a euphoric feeling (well, it is for me everytime, but thats different advice

Some girls need more direct contact to that area to actually "get off". See if that doesn't help. If she is anxious about doing it "in front of you", you need to offer to do it under the covers or something so it's not awkward for her.

Good luck.

Loki64

Try just eating her out without fingering her. No pressure on the G-spot shouldnt make her feel like having to pee.

boobless

In my opinion, there is nothing hotter than feeling that warm rush of female ejaculate during orgasm. Sure it's messing but thats why God inventd towels! Be strog and talk it over with her and show her that you want her to be "releaved" and enjoy that feeling and tell her not to be embarrassed. If you are strong in your support then she will will lossen up and let go. Believe me, I had the same situation with my wife and feeling her release right before I cum intensifies the orgasm for both of us!

Tairos

Oh yes, because sex, like everything else, should revolve around the woman. It is equally selfish to demand someone to do something he doesn't want to do than deny someone something she'd enjoy. Since that was probably too complicated for you, I'll rephrase it: it is as selfish on the girl's fault to pressure a guy to do stuff he doesn't enjoy doing than it is for the guy to not do something she wants him to do.

CD

Hell, try to get her to let loose in the shower. That way you will both know exactly what is happening, and she'll know if the pleasure is amazing.

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