coffeebreak

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Guys, please don't laugh.

During my first sex the other night, I failed to penetrate into her vagina! Yes, I'm still a virgin. But for all these years, I masturbated just fine. Do you think this is normal???

And do you think sex toys can help on my first sex? I mean, I have this plan to buy a vagina toy so I can learn to penetrate myself before I can go for the real action.

Do you think it's a good idea? Do you think a vagina toy feels like a real vagina or just feels like another plastic toy?

Thanks!

mstad

As far as the fact that you failed to penetrate on your first attempt at sex, I'd put the blame on nervousness rather than inexperience. Your just gonna have to relax and let it happen. No amount of masturbating, with or without a toy, is gonna get your head in the right place when it comes down to it.

Nifty

Im not joking at all here, but you may want to have some sort of light source on...lamp, night light, whatever. Sometimes you don't even hit it right all the time when you've done it a lot. It does just happen sometimes...but between you being nervous, and maybe not know EXACTLY where things are you were just having trouble hitting it. Take it slow. Don't worry about it, and you'll be just fine.

JacksonAces

You were just nervous. It happens. The male brain is odd like that in that it interprets signals of stress as the equivalent of sexual stimulation when you are in a sexual situation. Speaking from an evolutionary standpoint, it is supposed to make it easier to get through the experience quicker, so that you can go back to hunting for food or whatever, but in today's world, it just seems to complicate things.

I wouldn't worry about it though. No toy will help you, honestly, it's all about how comfortable you are with the girl you are with. And that will come with time and experience.

If your problem is simply aim, I would suggest asking her to help you find the mark. I know I had to the first time, even though I had just finished an embryology class and could probably have recited the names and locations of the different parts of the female genitalia from memory. So don't feel bad, just ask her to guide you in with her hand, and soon you will be able to find the spot without even using your hands. Ok, well, maybe not. That's really hard.

~jack

coffeebreak

Thanks for all the responses!

But, I'm still scared on my second attempt soon...

Seriously, can a vagina toy help me on my lesson to penetrate? The sex toy looks real, right? I just can't think of anything else. I need some "real-life" study where I can learn on my own before I jump into another action.

Oh, and by the way, are those Cock Rings can help too?

PLEASE, I'm desperate here! My friends will laugh at me when they know an "aged" man like me still a virgin! :(

Thanks again for your reply!

JacksonAces

Seriously, all you need is practice with a real, live woman. No fancy toy is going to substitute that. If there was a device that could, it would be making its inventor richer than Bill Gates.

There really isn't anything wrong about being a virgin either. In reality, it's just a mental thing. By the content of your first post, you have had sex, or at least you've done everything but the actual penetration, so I wouldn't even count you as still a virgin anymore. Just relax and let it happen. It will get easier.

And hell, you're not much older than I am. A lot of my friends your age are still virgins, and no one laughs at them.

Just tell the girl you are nervous. Chances are, she'll think it's cute and will want to "teach" you. That's all the learning you need. This isn't like some test, you can't really study for it. You just have to be honest and try to relax. Breathe. And have fun.

~jack

jasefm

Get your self off a few hours before you try it again. Don't make it complicated untill you know more.

coffeebreak

I have decided to buy myself a vibrating vagina. My brother told me that the cyberskin or UR3 skin feels like real, so I'm gonna buy it right away.

kulotsalot

Umm... vaginas don't vibrate IRL so if you're looking for something that's as close to real as possible, why would you get one that vibrates?!

Real ones are also attached to legs, a body, etc. Seriously if your problem is aim, get her to help.

JacksonAces

I don't think he's actually listening to us. I mean, he's afraid of being laughed at by his friends, but is willing to buy a vibrating fake vagina? I mean, I would think that would be more likely to incur the derision of his friends, but maybe I'm wrong...

Oh well

~jack

cymruchris

Sounds like a guy just looking for a excuse to by a vibrating vagina? Gonna have to jump in sometime, any caring gf would help you not laugh!

Boston

yeah, you're gonna suck at sex for a while...it's normal. try not to think about it because the more you think about it the quicker it will be over. don't waste your money on toys.

Krrak

There is no substitute for the real thing, and no toy is going to give you "experience" when it comes to a living breathing person.

You have already been given the advice by others to just relax, and enjoy the moment - that's the best advice that can be given. Talk to the girl you are with, get her to "suggest" things and help out - you just might find out that she is just as nervous and learning together will teach you more about pleasing the one you are with rather than the generic masses.

dirttrack

You just need to learn as you go ask her to show you the ropes sex toys are great to have always