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My girlfriend complains that i dont do enough foreplay, i know how to finger her but she doesnt always want me to do that and she doesnt like cunnilingus

i kiss and lick her all over aswell as stroking and cuddling, but she seems to want more

Can someone please give me some guide, i dont mean just a few pointers, i'm want like 20mins of material!

fmb

I'm not sure about twenty minutes of material, but I'll give your thread a shot.. To me, it seems as though you're trying for some foreplay, but may have a very slight bit of confusion as to what foreplay is, especially for your lady. A couple of tips needed before I go further; ask her what is a turn on for her, watch her reactions when you're with her, and listen to her reactions when you're doing what you think is a turn on for her.

First, foreplay is what goes on before the "goings on" are going on. The brain is the main sex organ in our body. Where is her mind at? What does she like? Where does she like being touched? Sometimes, the best part of sex is the anticipation. Early one morning, why not let her know what might happen later? Toss a short "I love you" note in her purse or lunch box.; during the day, give her a call and let her know she's on your mind. Remember, anticipation of the act is building...

Secondly, touch her. Hold her hand, kiss her on the cheek or the back of her hand. Hell, give her a wink!

Lastly (I know, it's not twenty minutes, but I've got alot going on!), focus on your woman during the events leading up to, and including, your lovemaking session. How does she respond, if at all? A smile? A touch back? A low moan? Or, NOTHING? (You might want to change something!)

I'll be back with more; sometimes I have difficulty moving my point across in a few minutes of time!

Ritzter

This definitely works for me. My girlfriend loves it when I tell her what I'm going to do. If we're out somewhere, especially in public, I'll whisper to her how hard I'm going to make her come when we get home, or something along those lines. Even telling her things like that as we start foreplay gets her all worked up.

Don't do things to her because you have to, pay attention to how she reacts and do it because you want to turn her on. Good luck!

jeffc574

Expand your horizons. Your girl has a spot (other than the one between her legs) that she LOVES to have played with. It may be under her ear, or behind her knees or her toes. Find it and play with it. Back rubs are good too. Get away from the clock. Get into being with her. Ask her about her fantasies. There is something in her head that soaks her. Your job is to find it, not to do "prep work" for a fuck.

maggiesdragons

All the other posts are good, I will just add to the mix. Its not what you do but how you do it. You might be doing the right things but in the wrong way. Ask her to be more specific about it. Tell her how much it means to you to turn her on and get her off, that right there is the key, and mean it, we can tell when you just say it. Make her your number one priority.

JacksonAces

Have you ever tried massage? I know that when my gf and I are both really stressed out, the one thing that we can do when we are together is strip down and just work out the tension of the world for each other. You may want to try this, it doesn't even have to be anything sexual at first, just get some oil and rub her back, working out the tight spots and generally making contact. Massage her feet, her hands, her neck, her back, anywhere she stores tension. Then, when she is all nice and relaxed, ask her to do the same for you. This is some of the best foreplay we've ever had. Afterwards, both of you are relaxed and carefree, and naked, usually, so sex just comes naturally.

Don't know if this will help, I know it works for us. I'm just trying to avoid writing a research paper for my 20th century art history class. Stupid art history requirements.... stupid art college....

~jack

Queso

this one's very good. i'd probably say 'screw it' to whatever we happened to be doing just so i could get him home faster

jShizz

Giving a car ride BJ is one of my favorites to get him going.

Queso

never done that, but have given an HJ while i was driving.

but yeah, the previous one would be flipping hot. too bad it's never happened to me before though

mt4p

Two words:

Just Ask!!

Tell her your not a mind reader. And after she tells you what she likes, don't forget to tell her what you like!!

Tairos

Simple pointer: tell her to shut up.

Queso

smartass remark much?

kulotsalot

If you're not gonna add anything constructive, please don't bother posting. This section is for serious discussions; if you can't back up your 'shut up' comment with a good reason, it is considered a smart ass remark which isn't allowed here.

Personally I think telling her to shut up is one of the WORST things you could possibly say. Like most things, sex without communication becomes a guessing game and generally everyone loses. It doesn't have to be some sort of clinical discourse, either. Breathing, body movement - those things are important cues that every guy should know how to read! Some people are so preoccupied with "the power of the mighty thrust" though, that they are just oblivious to the cues their partner gives them.

Green Eyes

Agreed. Good sex is typically a bi-product of good communication and paying attention to your partner.