boobless

I would like to input my story that comes from the other side of the coin. I had a really good friend of mine who had a wife that I became friends with. In fact, we became really good friends. We would often meet for lunch or she would come over to my place for a swim. I even got her to play on my company softball team. We would talk and share info with each other like the best of friends. Only problem was we eventually grew very attracted to each other. After awhile, when we were together with her husband and my wife, it got to the point where we would try to sneak off even for just a few seconds just to sneak in a kiss. I loved my wife very much and she loved her husband, but there was such a magnetic attraction between us, that it was borderline dangerous and we were in fear that we might give off some sort of hint that we were "more than friends" and we might get caught. We had to be very careful. In fact we both decided mutually to stop having our afternoon get togethers and would only see each other if it was a couples thing with our spouses. We would still call each other every day because we were still very close. Yet this made it harder because we lusted for that physical contact. But we managed to limit our "alone" time. Another thing that pushed us together more intimately was the fact that she could talk to me and she would know that I would listen and help her through tough times. She loved her husband but they had some problems. They had tried many times to get pregnant but they couldn't succeed. This took a major toll on their marriage. Plus he was kind of controlling as far as letting her enjoy extra activities like sports and hobbies. She even had to quit my softball team because he didn't like her playing and was afraid she'd get hurt. He always wanted to know where she was and what she was doing. I'm not sure if he ever suspected us being together. He never let on that he was, at least not to me. Eventually things got tough for them and they ended up getting divorced. I never saw or heard from her again. I guess she felt that a clean break was best for both of us considering that I was still married and she didnt want to see me go through the same pain as she did. I tried calling her every day for 3 months but she never returned my calls. I finally told her in my last message to her that I will miss her very much and I let her go. I do miss our meetings, but not as much as I miss her friendship. We grew very close over time and she was one person I could truely call "a close friend".

I guess my point is that sometimes when good friends of opposite sex turn to each other to lean on when things in their lives aren't going well, attractions and chemistry can take over. She may still love you and want to be with you and it seems like she shows it by your story. But there may be that "chemistry" with her friend that has you suspicious. Remember when you're in love, it's nothing but trouble. So you either stop loving her, or love her a whole bunch more!