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My girlfriend has been adament about the "No rear access" for years. I've never really pushed the issue either. Messing around last night, and by chance (not intentional) I ended up face deep in her from behind. Well, the nose "tickled" her a bit. She seemed a bit receptive, so I asked if I could plow around with the tongue a little, and she accepted. She seemed to enjoy it. We didn't go much further with the anal issue, but my question is.... What should be the next step in trying to get her a more comfortable and used to sensations in that area?

Queso

when you're going down on her or just fingering her try poking a finger around in that direction. don't full on stick your finger in it, just circle around it or maybe apply a litte pressure to the entrance and see how she responds to it. Then, if she doesn't resist try a little more pressure/slight insertion and go from there.

hope that helps

BradleyNIN

If you have sex then its pretty easy to sneak a finger in while she's about to climax. Remember, its the stimulation to the sphincter muscle that gets them off, not the insertion. So if you mess around with it enough then eventually she'll want to try it. But its damn near impossible without lube unless she's a dirty whore. I wouldnt push it. If you do you may never get it. But if you make her want to do it you'll have her reading on how to do it in no time.

Queso

most girls don't climax from sex alone, so that might not work. but if his girl does then go for it.

and being a dirty whore has nothing to do with needing to use lube in that area. I for one don't use lube there and last i checked i wasn't a dirty whore. Also, that area is completely different from the vag. It doesn't stretch out over time like it does in so-called "dirty whores". you've shoved out big shits from that hole just about every day of your life and yours isn't all stretched out is it? just saying, although it is easier with lube.

ryster

I think the dirty whore thing was sarcasm, hinting at this - In all seriousness, (and not trying to be offensive), how can you possibly not use lube? You said it - the anus is not like the vagina. It does not make any natural lubricant, whereas the vagina does. I mean, I have never (and hopefully will never) had any anal stuff coming my way, but I can't figure how it would work without some sort of lubricant.

As for the topic, I would just keep doing what you're doing. You've already made progress, and as long as you remember that she's not obligated to give it, then I think you should do fine (unless she is set strictly on no penetration, in which case you just haven't crossed the line yet).

BradleyNIN

Didnt mean to offend, If you can take it without lube, then kudos to you. But I seriously dont think this young lad will successfully do anal with a first timer without lube...

wingshot

I agree with the others, stay slow, fingers first, and lots of lube!

clamsrus

If like my partner she gets too aroused too quickly and threatens to "tip over" then wandering back and teasing her anally will keep her teetering on the edge, and she may get to adore the sensation of being fully on the boil but not threatening to "lose it".

We often use some lube at the front as well, and then use enough that it trickles on back. She also likes it when she lays on her stomach on top of my hand with legs spread wide and exposed so I can work her at the front, and she can thrust herself onto my fingers against the bed....then pour a little lube into the crease of her buttocks and let it follow gravity, tracing it forward with my other fingertips.

It has the dual effect that when it gets too intense at the front and she pulls her clit away from my fingers, she raises and opens herself at the back exposing herself to more teasing. I start with little....."accidental" flicks....and touches making her clench...pretending that you brushed over her inadvertently. Then progress to ever so slow little circles, never quite touching the openning, and feeling her starting to manoeuvre her hips a little and altering the tilt, and relaxing. Then flat contact with a finger with hardly any movement...more rocking pressure in a circular manner.

Don't forget to focus on the perineal body, the bulb of connective tissue directly infront of the anus and behind the vagina, and out to either side into the muscles that anchor the perineal body into the midline.....if you start to focus into those areas the sensations can become so exquisite that she'll plead with you to keep exploring!!

fmb

You know, you may have hit on the key....let it happen! It came up at some point during sex and you both enjoyed it. Just let it happen!

Having said that, remember lubrication! Hers, or lube you supply (bottled, spit, etc). Don't rush things. Let her get used to the sensations over some time. Don't make a tremendous deal about it. If she's receptive, move forward a bit!!

hey8hey6hey

Just tell her how important it is to you... I mean, talking her into it is probably the best way. Just make sure you can handle not getting it all the time, because it's awesome.

Mustangsaly

I was going to say something, but I think I learned from you all. sounds like your on the right track.





























Mustangsaly

tarun_sharma

dude, dont even dream of trying it without lube..I dont know who's suggesting that its not necessary, but your gf will never let you touch there if you attempt it without lube..

tarun_sharma

and do plan on using a condom..

Queso

not neccessarily. yes, lube is nice. ESPECIALLY if it's her first time or something, but her own juices moved back there can work just as well.