Bigeme

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So the last two nights I slept with two different girls. Unfortunately thats all that I did. What am I doing wrong that these girls will sleep with me but nothing else?

To be fair the one from friday fell asleep while there were a couple of people hanging out in my room and just stayed here. The one last night got sick, but I still feel like she isn't interested.

michaeljohn

Look at it this way, you wanted sex, they wanted sex, and you got your wishes. Unfortunately, that was all they wanted, and your body has been used. This is how a lot of girls feel, that men just want them for thir body.

Focus on finding a realtionship that will last.

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michaeljohn

Upon rereading your post, I guess that's all that happened, you slept together, no sex. Well, if you didn't try anything, they either think you weren't interested or are gay. If you tried for more, you weren't their type.

See my closing advice in my post above.

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BlackPearlSpace

you need to close early on. in that, you need to make a move early on, whether or not you have sex is another thing.

if you're just being polite and not taking risks, you'll not get anywhere. if they've slept in your company, it's either good or bad. they at least trust you, but they also may have you on their friend ladder.

google ladder theory. if you are on that ladder, you'll see why it's pointless.

don't be polite if you want to have sex, take risks, and show your interest. girls don't sleep with 'friends' and of course be polite, I just mean don't be a pussy push over 90s man type of polite where you treat them like some higher being. they can smell that, is my theory.

good luck.

Bigeme

yea well im not exactly pursuing this it just kind of happened. I am just wondering if I was already on the friends ladder (I am very familiar with ladder theory) and if its not worth me pursuing at all.

There's a lot more backstory to this it was a crazy situation and I probably should have left earlier when I had a chance.

I am not looking for a relationship. I just got out of one and one thing that really always bothered me was a large discrepency in our sexual histories(I've only been with 2 girls and the first one hardly counts). I don't want that to be something that I will hold against someone. I feel I need to have a short very physical relationship with someone for this reason and so that I can know whether I felt about my ex because of the sex or because I actually cared about her. I just want to be able to seperate the two.

Juan.©amaney

Have you ever made out before? If so, just go for it. Smooch smooch until theyget worked up. If you have no skills, well GET SOME. If you have never smooched and this happened YOU ARE IN FRIEND ZONE. Nothing you do can ever get you out of it short of illegaly drugging them.

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senseimike2007

If you slept with them without sex, give up on these two, you're most likely out of the game as far as their concerned, you're "safe" in their mind, like a good friend or a brother, time to move on.
With the next gorl to come arund you should try to be more aggressive, flirt from the onset, avoid the friend zone from the start and begin moving in for the kill from the start, subtly, you don't want to be offensive or pushy, but definately make it clear what you're looking for in a discreet and non threatning manner. If they're interested they'll bite, if not, move on to the next one.

BradleyNIN

Congratulations! You're in the Friend Zone!

wingshot

A girl sick in your bed won't be interested in sex even if she has had a crush on you forever. Be the nice guy and it will pay dividends for you.