Butter

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This girl i was with, for 9 months. Just split up with her! A couple of days later i find out shes got with (kissed, big style i.e made out) with one of my best friends. And now im hearing rumors from all over about how she was even doing it while we were still together. I was seriously in love with this girl, and i still am. But i hate my friend and her for what they have done.
Im just wanting to know, whats the general code of conduct for this sort of thing. They are both friends of my friends, but opinions of them have gone waay down since this happened, people are on my side. But i just have no idea how to treat it.
I was thinking just get as far away from them both as possible, but i dont wanna stay away from other friends. I cant believe what shes done, it hurts big style, i mean, i cant see me wanting another relationship for a long time.

CD

You'll get over the pain and move on. The best thing to do now is to say "fuck em". They proved to you and to your other friends that they are mega assholes, so rise above them. Basically chalk it up to the fact that you didn't lose a friend, cause a friend wouldn't do that to you. And the girl? You now know that you are much better off without her.

Just try to accept that (sucks, but in the end you'll be ok), and move on with your life and let their mistake bite them in the ass with a big dose of Karma one day.

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Butter

Hey thanks!
Yeh, im leaving the town for at least a year for uni at the end of september, so i cant wait to get away really :D

Daiikun

Look at it this way...if your friend's opinions of the two of them have gone way done, how do you think that SHOULD make them feel? Most likely, your friends aren't going to want to hang out with them anymore and that kind of thing because it's wrong for what they did to you.

Keep your other friends close to you. They're the support you can rely on. Your ex and your other friend? Just watch the sparks fly as things between them and your friends start falling to pieces...not to mention the fact that as the friendship between the two of them and your other friends fall apart, but they most likely will too in turn.

Ain't karma a bitch?

Green Eyes

Yeah, it sucks, but you've got to move on and not dwell on it.

Uni will definitely help you take your mind off of it.

badwife

yes I agree.. it sucks, but eventually time fixes everything... It would have been best for one of them to be honest enough with you earlier.. but you are better off now knowing.. it will be more difficult getting past it with them and you still hanging out with the same group of people

CD

I don't think that will be a problem. I have a feeling that when you are hanging out with your group, your friends will rather not have those other 2 around. I've seen that situation play out before, and it's almost like the cheaters get the "black sheep" label and are not welcome anymore (or at least if you are hanging out).

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yellowfish

yip my girlfriend cheated on me with my best friend
same thing i heard it on the grapevine
and it was when we were still going out
and my friends didnt want them round while i was there
it was actualy quite healing

odinme

i guess the simplest way to say things is this, about the girl: you will find another, and they will be better FOR you as well, shit happens, let go. about your friend: real friends wouldnt do that to you, so id personally say screw them and forget about them, after all, they arent really any friend of yours

uacmarine

yeah, i know what you're going through...I had that happen to me in a roundabout way with an ex and needless to say, at first the shock and pain really hurts, but then when you can't feel anymore strong dislike sinks in and causes you to not care about them anymore...then you begin to go about your life normally again...i just suggest though to stay single for a bit until you can get your emotions all settled out...i didnt and it just crashed me down farther...

Juan.©amaney

If you lost that kind of friend for that kind of girl, you are better off without either of them.

Pick up your ego, get your mojo back, and get ready for the next one.

How old are you? Why do you have a gf?

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clamsrus

Listen to these folks.....now JC here has counselled more guys than you've had hardons!
"Chin up" the worst is behind...not knowing and being cheated on was way worse than holding your head high again....good luck with your studies.

zand_stein

well i just advice you to ignore both of them........
past is past, you cant do anything about it....i know youre hurt but it will hurt you a lot if your still together and she is making with your best friend.....that is very hard to accept for a man to know that......maybe someday youll find a girl that is best for you.......

BradleyNIN

Just go to college and bang as many of those freshmen girls who have as little of a clue as you do.