FreakyMcFreak

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If everything else was equal... would you give up sex for an indeterminately long period of time to save a long-term relationship? a la an on again, off again type of thing.

And I would be curious to know age and gender, if you think that factors in, or if you think you'd answer differently five years ago or five years from now or whatever.

salamander

I'm in a long-distance relationship and so have given up sex for a long time. It's incredibly frustrating, but I'm okay with my choice. I sure hope we will see each other soon though!!

I'm 41 and female. I don't know if I could have done this when I was a lot younger. I have taken a long break from having sex before, but not that long ago. Don't assume it's easier because I'm female. I have a very strong libido and haven't ever dated a guy with as high of a sex drive as I have. As I've gotten older the sex itself is less important, I have found that I need a relationship to go along with it.

pobo827

i find that i need sex, i may be addicted to it but if i go into a relationship i don't satisfy my needs, i end up cheating on my partner and it all blows up in my face.

filo5900

Ok so is this just the actual intercourse part? Cause I could live with Bj's and Hj's.

If its no sex at all I think if it was a really serious relationship I could do it. Weird for an 18 year old male to say right? But I mean I lasted 18 years of my life without sex and I'm sure I could give it up again.

clamsrus

I have had long periods without sex for a range of reasons...mainly that my partner has a very low libido...so left to her own devices she would probably be interested once in about every other month...the second being that she has had periods of poor health and stress which often impacts negatively. Now I choose to not seek gratification elsewhere because of my relationship, but the situation puts me under pretty severe loading sexually as I have a high drive. We have talked about it, and she agrees that keeping me "drained' makes for a happier person to live with...and on one occaision even decided to "service" me every day.....it lasted about three days before she gave up. I think she was under the impression that if she provided me with sex that somehow my libido would decrease. When we do get it on our range of activities is broad....and we are both satisfied with what we get up to.......it just happens so seldom as to be a farce. For some while I thought maybe it was because she didn't find me sexually attractive, and I got quite depressed about it, but I know that infact she does, she just doesn't feel any compunction to do anything about it on a regular basis, and is very seldom horney.

SirSlade86

i need sex! then again a love the relationship im in at the moment! so if i didnt have the relationship then i dont know if i would still have this desire for sex with my partner!

20 yr old male

Echolalia

I would give up sex for a long term relationship, totally. Sex is not a necessity in life for a lot of people (it shouldn't be at all, really). But if you have any inklings that you don't like the person and it won't last, then don't bother, I say. A real relationship based out of love (respect, a connection, all that crap) wouldn't and shouldn't really need sex. It all comes down to the question of values and personal philosophy.

I'm a 20 year old female, and I think I'd say this at any time in my life (or at least I hope I know myself that well).

kulotsalot

I think the question is...

If you HAD to give up sex to save a long-term relationship, is this relationship worth saving?!

My assumptions is that you would only want to save a "good" relationship.

In my book, a "good" relationship is a relationship where all things are good, including sex.

So, I'm thinking, what is so screwed up about this relationship that I'm trying to save, that we cannot be having sex while we are in it?

Juan.©amaney

sorry, part of relationships is having relations.

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SirSlade86

couldnt have said it better!

are you in a relationship though?