blownsmoker

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well last night my gf of about a month or so checkd her email on my laptop and stayed signed in and i went to check mine and she was still logged in and my curiosity got the best of me.......she had asked a friend why she broke p with her bf and she said that they guy felt to strong for her after a short period of time and she didnt feel the same.....so my gf replys that yea shes in the same situation and how i like her ALOT when i mean i feel strong for her but its nothing un ordinary in any of my relationships, and she goes on and says that she will give it a few months and if it doesnt change its over with. so my quesion is what do i to to make it better, or what do i do about the email just let it go w/o mentioning it and just let is slide? i might i like this girl alot but if she doesnt feel the same way i ant to make it better or just get out she said she liked me but apparently she thinks i like her alot more than she likes me so i dont know what to do...please help


p.s. sorry for the long rant

microhaxo

Hmm Sounds to me like she wants some space, however if she doesn’t want you to get too close then she isn’t looking for a long term relationship.. If I were you I would give her plenty of space and hang with your friends, if you have any female friends this will make her jealous if you want it to or not and she might change her mind about how "close" the relationship is.

Do not let her know that you know about the email.. that will make her mad.

shiiboi

I disagree with microhaxo. I think you should tell her that you read the email.

I learned that honesty honesty honesty is the only thing in lasting relationships. Once you tell a lie, you have to tell 2 more to bridge it to the truth, and then 4 more to bridge the 2 new lies and so on and on. Eventually the truth gets out and you have a lot of explaining to do too late.

You've only been with her a month, so the initial rush of a new relationship is starting to fade and you're starting to notice each other's warts. Maybe this isn't the right relationship for you guys-- but maybe it is and maybe if you never read her email things would have worked out and you'd never have known about her doubts.

But now that you've read the email the genie is out of the bottle and you have to let her know and deal with the consequences. If you get past this it will be better in the long run.

I would say to her-- "Listen, you left your email open on my laptop and I shouldn't have invaded your privacy but I did and I think we should talk about what you wrote."

TOS111

haha... yea, you're starting to notice each other's warts.

Anyways, I would talk to her about it, but dont mention the email

blownsmoker

i planned ont alking to her about it but i dont plan on mentioning the email, but how would you guys reccomend i bring it up or start the topic?

microhaxo

Just say you have been feelin that she is kinda leaning away from you. Tell her that you noticed it and wanted to know if anything was wrong. Thats what I would do.

or you could flat out say.. I seen the email you sent, do you really feel that way?

blownsmoker

so i bsiacally said what ^ said and she said well when we talk in person i am really just tired and i enjoy being around you and blah blah so i dont know what ot belive and she said idk im trying to give things time to work themselves out so i dont know what to believe the email or her

pathos

I think that the general consensus to talk to her is VERY WISE.

I have found in my many years of chasing girls and women (I am 43), that women who decide that the relationship is over then it is indeed over. So if your relationship is destined for the tubes then it is better to free your self now rather than later from this relationship.

With that said, I (personally) would take the "sage" road and NOT mention you saw the email. By the "sage road" I mean say something like I feel that a widening chasm forming between us and was wondering if it is just me........yada yad ya.....Maybe we should start dating others.

Just my opinion.

blownsmoker

well i guess were straight the email was from like a week maybe even two weeks ago, she said we are good