supersatch

Try making an innunendo or slight joke of it. Nothing for her to take seriously, but just quickly put it through her mind. other than that make the comment about yourself.

rebellious-D

femail proxy good way to go

AG>SR

....It may verywell be an emission from her environment....

..does she live in a basement, is she a cook, does she live or work with around anything that has that permiating smell?

...somethings act like an olfactory 'INK'......and takes days to wash out ...


....or it might have alot to do with her diet....

.....eitherway , if you take her out, go somewhere that stinks, go for a horseback ride or a boxing match, or maybe to a drag race....


...good luck, dirty girls need lovin too......__J

phillychief

sometimes it can be clothing is she hasn't laundered them in a while too i agree find out the do she uses and recommend another that works great for you even though you 're a guy and she should try it. or reccommend how great the do wipes work for you

Conan9

There is no way that I know of that you can effectively deal with this issue. It says something about her that she would not notice it herself and be self-conscious. Only a very close friend can discuss this with someone. The subtle way to get a message across is not to get too close to her later in the day. If she asks you why blame it on yourself and tell her that you are very sensitive to scents later in the day and you fear that you might offend her when your bath and deodorant wear off. Perhaps she will get the message.

Nesmall2

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yea if i were you, i would not really get into it or talk to her about it. The main thing to remember is that you too are not her friend or she does not know you i guess. So your best bet would be try talking to one of her close friends, and tell them about it. They might try to help you, or tell you that they already tried and she dont listen.

Igby

You could maybe do it anonymously via email or something like that...if you put it nicely...

mntlfngrs

Just ask her if she'll join you for a shower because you both stink. She'll say "you don't stink" and you will stay quiet. Or maybe she'll just say OK!
Either way.

arosch

Good advise...perhaps the deodorant could come as part of a hygene package, say eletric tooth brush, toothpaste, body powder, shower gel/loofa...
The 'easy' gift, however cheesy, for a female is the bath stuff...in fact I don't mind getting that stuff too...
I had this great smelling deodorant that made me REEK at the end of the day...I changed brands/product to one that actually wasn't as strong in odor. It must have been my body chemistry or something, because it was never a problem again. Try Mitchum stuff...it's very light-smelling but kicks BO's ass! I think it even kills bacteria so the smells don't begin.
You're in a tough spot there, but I'm sure a small investment in a 'gift' (or something that she could use when she comes over) and some tact will result is a positive outcome.

OSR4EVR

just dropship a crate of deoderent to her house , but no return address


she will get the clue

alumni72

Ragnarok, did this problem have a happy ending?

I just spotted it, so I know my advice is not exactly timely, but I'd have simply asked her if she just got done working out - try to tie it into a compliment about what great shape she's in.

BlackPearlSpace

There is no easy way out of this situation. If you pussyfoot around, and try hinting at it, she'll probably still be just as offended, and even more so that you tried being sneaky about it.

Women don't want to hear the truth, especially if you're both still in evaluation mode. If you're good friends, or have been together a long time, then you can be honest. If you're still in the evaluation mode, definately not. Most women are fickle creatures, and are just looking for a reason to cut you loose. By sticking around, you're just proving that a) you have one or more things that she likes enough to keep her interested, and b) you've not set off any alarms about things she doesn't like. Commenting on something negative will just make you look negative.

Women don't think like we do. There is no way to just logically state a fact and have it devoid of emotional reaction. Therefore, you're options are limited. You can:

-learn to live with it. untill you get to another stage in the relationship then mention it. who knows, her brain may twist this into: omg, he's soooo sweet. he put up with that just cause he likes me, omg.

-use a female proxy. but come on, do you really think someone who is close enough to her to deliver the news as a good friend is gonna respect you're arrangement? hell no. they are friends, not you, and they will talk. guaranteed.

-go for broke. my personal favourite. have some balls, be blunt, and say something direct, firm, and with only a tiny hint of cockiness. not enough to be mean, but enough to show her you're a man and will stand your ground on issues. don't start rambling. just say your point, state a fact. it can help to use "I" statements. make it about how when she does something, this is how you feel. i.e., when you smell bad, I feel like it prevents me from getting close to you. that's it. don't start rambling cause you'll dig yourself a huge hole. don't compromise, and try to make excuses for her. just state a fact and how it makes you feel.

if it goes well, and you handle it tactfully, she'll see that you're man enough to speak your mind. also, the timing of this is important. you need to make this statement at the right time and place. when no one else is around, and when she has an opportunity to fix it. 5 min before you leave on a date is not the right time, that's just mean.

it's very likely that she is aware of this situation, and is already feeling awkward about it. your directness may help her drop the stressful worrying about how you feel, which is what not saying anything and pussyfooting will make her feel like. if she's mentally well balanced, she'll hopefully laugh, and let out a big sigh, and then the real conversation will start. she'll say she's embarrassed about it and doesn't know what to do. and you'll win some bigtime points for being a man.

if she freaks out, well then, guess what. I just saved you 5 months of bullshit before you figure out on your own that she was a psycho bitch. win-win really.
good luck. and please, let us know how it goes. nothing is worse than giving advice to ppl who never come back to let us know.

uacmarine

get her a bath and body works gift basket on a date or something...but yeah, im w/ nearly everyone else that a direct or indirect revelation to her on the issue would be relationship suicide

BradleyNIN

Stop bathing so you start to smell too. Then when she says something tell her the only way you'll shower is if she takes one with you....