1337Ares

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Alright ive got a question for ya (sorry for the errors im drunk currently). Ok so I left my girl friend a few months back and ive bin hanging out with this girl who is super smart and super hot ( im very attracted to her). The prob is that she is a huge flirt any guy that comes up she flirts with. I was just at the bar with her and a guy that was on my rugby team oddly enough who dated her for 5 months . she woudl randomly come up and touch me and stuff and after the guys hit on her she doesnt' give them the time of day. I don't know what to do. should I go for it...other then her being a flirt she is pretty amazing. I know that if I tried i could get with her. But i get pretty protective of my girls so id prob end up in alot of fights if I dated her. any comments would be appreciated....again im sorry for the spelling errors it was cheap drinks tonight.

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Chameleon Grrl

it seems like both of you have some pretty serious issues you're dealing with and combining them is asking for trouble. just from the little description you gave it sounds like she is still getting most of her self-esteem from the attention of men which can lead down dangerous paths that often include cheating. it also sounds like you've got some control issues if you're getting into fights over girlfriends. don't get serious with her, and go to counseling. i'd suggest looking into either anger management or a batterers' program since if you're so "protective" that you get violent you're not a very stable person.

1337Ares

O lol I dont' get into fights over girls.........tell you the truth ive never bin in a fight...........im a fairly big guy so people usually back off. What i ment by that was that guys tend to touch her and stuff and I dont' overy like guys touching my girlfriends. So id probably end up in fights cause id tell them off. And I agree with you about her ive been wondering what i shoudl do for a while. I dont' think she would cheat she is a really sweet girl just she loves the attention she gets from guys. Thanx for the reply I figure ill see what happens.

TriColor06

Good luck with this one Bro ! Seems like your heading towards a big ass headache ! I think ive been here before. I mean if one really likes a girl, like you sound you do, who woulndt get mad at someone for putting hands on your girl. I think the other guys up here are right, she gets her self esteem from the attention she gets from guys, so if she cant change and decide which attention she wants more, yours or all the other dudes, then drop her. Dont even bother. But if your looking for just a temporary fling, which i dont think your looking for, but then again you were drunk when you wrote this, then go for it ! Show that hot girl off and Live It Up! Sorry im such an ass . . . .

****Emma****

I'm a flirt I'll admit it n I guess I do like the attention...but I only do it when I'm drunk...or if I'm with a guy I really like.

I suggest you talk to her about it, tell her if you two get together the flirting with other guys has to stop. If my bf told me that I would. But she might see flirting as totally harmless...like I do, but then again I'm the jealous type aswell lol

Try it, see how it goes. Good luck!

bocasbeachbum

Almost universally, guys think that a girl flirtting too much is a slut, but then a guy flirtting is just being a guy, which is ok. It is a basic biological drive and there is nothing you can do about it. If she is a flirt - let her flirt and live with it. Or learn how to fight well, because you will need it, and probably lose her in the process. Life is a bitch to deal with some times.

shiiboi

If you get into a relationship expecting the other person to change their nature, it's gonna end badly.

She's a flirt. She'll always be a flirt. If you can't handle it now, it would be a big problem for you later if you became serious. You'll demand that she stop. She may promise to stop, but be unable to control herself 100% of the time. You'll get angry at her when she fails. She'll tell you that you knew what she was like when you met her, when did it become a problem?

1337Ares

Yeah you guys are right. I think im going to go with TriColor and just have a fling with her that way i dont' have to worry about any of it. Thanx again guys

1337Ares

I totally forgot about this thread...... what ended up happening was that we both took the same chem/bio classes and spent most of our week together. she ended up asking me out. This happened about 7 months ago it worked out pretty well. She is still a flirt but toned it down. It's not all bad there's something to be said about the girl that all the guys are after always coming home with you... anyway i thought id update you on what happened (I totally forgot how i felt about her back then)

Nifty

So you two are still together then?

Juan.©amaney

Hey, guy, just go out with her. No need to be exclusive. No need to worry about who she flirts with. Sounds like you are managing already. Next time, subscribe to the thread so we know wtf is happening, capiche?

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1337Ares

yeah im still with her going on 7 months now thats her in my pic actually

Juan.©amaney

You are like 19? no need for a gf dude!

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Jpap013

hows the relationship going?