aaalouie

Man....I am in the same boat.....My wife suffers fromdepression and has thyroid problems. Her sex drive is below zero.....

cowboy085

hey i really have no advice but i just wanted to say im sorry and wish you luck with the situation

phylip

be carefull my wife stopped having sex with me and 8 months later im without a wife and a house and 50 thousand worse off
and it came down to she wasnt happy any more and wanted a change but no ammount of talking would change her mind
also she said it wasn't me it was her she just wanted a change ( yeah whatever)

jShizz

Women's mind work on such an advanced level when it comes to sex. For me at least, I still am just as paranoid when we first slept together almost 10 years ago. Does he think I'm fat? Do I smell? Am I doing this right?

Just these few thoughts running through my head are enough to stress me out to not want to get down.

That's just the nature of a woman. On top of all that, we are mother's, daughter's, friends, and bosses, and that alone is enough stress to kill anyone.

I suffer from depression, and I take meds for it. It does affect my dex drive, it just takes a little longer fo rme to "get in the mood".

I am committed to my marriage and satisfying my husband, so it is something I make a priority in working on. I am sure people have already mentioned this, but communicating your unhappiness to her is a must. If she doesn't take it well, she needs help. You should be able to have open communication with her as to any issues, but specifically major issues that affect the marriage like sex.

Good luck.

KidQ

Ok - I have to put my .02 in because of my first marriage. Same story and it sounds like a lot of people are claiming same feelings...

Yes get her to a Dr. see if there is something with depression or hormonal.
Yes it is frustrating but no you cannot live the next 50 years like this because you will start to resent her and it will come out in your daily lives.
Yes get some counseling
Yes she still has a sex drive it is just dorment or horribly you just do not do it it for her :( sorry had to say that

All in all you have to carefully work through this mine field but just to give up on sex will not work - trust me

arosch

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Hey,
I feel you...I've been married for 6+years...about a month after we started having sex (was a virgin...not anymore she developed a condition called Vulvodynia (which is basicly 'painful vulva'). This condition was very difficult to diagnose and took 2-3years to name the condition. Lots of doctors just said "well, I don't know...it's all in your head." She couldn't go for a walk, take a bath, ride a bike, get/keep a job...she was practically allergic to her own sweat...this led to her becoming depressed for a number of reasons (not being able to get on with her life, "waisting" mine, not being able to satisfy herself/me, you get the picture).
We had to improvise 'loving' eachother because I couldn't help her, and it was difficult to get her into the 'mood' to provide 'assistance' to me as there were painful consequenses.
It was hard, but we made it through...and she/we still fight this illness as it is resistant to treatment...
I agree with the above posts, in that seeking the help of a therepist and/or doctor is certainly an option.
I don't know the specifics of your situation, however, when my wife's condition was really bad it was hopeless...she went to Mexico (Cancun) with her sisters (I was a little jelous) and it changed her life. Although the pain-condition was still lurking, the depression was slowly lifted.
Try to address the depression with lifestyle mods, like exercise, diet (complete, not fad shit), relaxation/stress relief. But nip that depression in the butt, because the longer it continues, the more resistant to treatment it becomes.
It sounds like you are caring life-partner, who is concerned and is seeking out help...
Just talk a lot, fall in love all over, find out what makes her hot...rediscover (that goes for her and you).
Sorry about the long post...hang in there...

senseimike2007

wow, an almost mirror image of my situation. Mine has started to improve tho, not by spending more time together, but by spending more interesting time together. instead of staying in, we go out, we hang out with friends together more now, some how this translate into more sex. Oh, I hate that damn line too, used to make me want to scream.

PurpleButton

Were you guys having a lot of sex before you got married? or you knew what you were getting into. she should see a doctor. women's libido's are easily affected by so many causes

SPERMY

I have been married for about 4 years and I am having the same problem. I have read most of the feedback and most of them sound great but be careful with depression medication most have sexual side effects

If she is on any meds. look up side effects.

electstat

before doing all the meds and doctor things, try something simple like going out on dates. Before getting married, it was something special to be with each other and then have sex. Now, you see each other all of the time and life gets in the way (bills, dishes, laundry). Go out on a date without worrying about normal life and see how it goes. It may not happen on the first night. After that, pick a night that will always be your "date night".

I've been married for 5 years and we have always had a date night. If anything, it gets us away from the house for a couple of hours.

hugooo

your wife isnt cool...

anamarie.villar

I wanted to raise my opinion on the point of view of the wife. Most of the times, a good sex will not sart from touching a woman. It has to start on the emotional side, find more time with her talking sweet things. Yes, sex is an expression of love, but there is more than that.

dandm2003

start leaving other women's phone numbers around the house. She'll get the hint quite fast...........just kidding

cm8

I don't know what to say. I am kind of in the same boat except it's opposite, My husband is a lot older than I am and he is always tired to be with me, sexually, physically, emotionally, I on the other hand, love being with him whenever I can. I'm at the prime of my life and he has already been there done that so to speak. It is fustrating to say the least because I ALWAYS want it! I was used to getting it 6 times a day( vaginal, Oral). Maybe she has a Thyroid issues, or maybe she is depressed, has anything happen lately? Have you done anything that you should not have and she found out about it and doesn't know what to do about it? I get the " I' m tired " too, but he then goes and looks at porn and gets his rocks off and leaves me high and dry. It's so bad till I'm so numb on my clit from my pocket rocket, lol, so I can understand how you feel. I hope she gets better soon, that is no way to live in a marriage. I know, because I'm living it now. At least you like to eat her out too, my husband won't even suck my tits, it's all about him. I've stop giving him head since he won't take care of me, funny, he had no problem doing it to his mistresses, lol TMI