stuck between a rock and a hard place.

[aznjaijai]

hi webrats... umm this is actually my first post on this forum and i was hoping for some serious advice.
ive been with this girl for 8 months now, shes really sweet and really good to me. i met her through my friends, and im her first boyfriend, i also took her virginity. i do kinda love her but that might just because of the fact we've been together 8 months.
1 month ago i met another girl. amazingly hot and really fun, at first we kinda flirted with eachother for fun and up until 1 week ago it was harmless until we went to a club together. she got drunk, we made out and fooled around, the next night we got drunk again and had some amazing sex, night after that same story and the night after that same story. we've been on one "date" and i really do like her.

twist.. when we met eachother i knew she had a bf (for 2 years) and she knew i had a gf cuz i told her. we've been talking alot lately and shes caught feelings for me... really hard. to the point where she called me today and told me she told her bf everything and that they are now broken up.. and she now wants to be with me..

who do i pick? im not a cheater.. atleast not up until this point. and i feel guilt but at the same time i want them bothhhh!!!!

[rd5150]

think long and hard about your current gf before u break it off... from my experience... ull probably end up calling her in 3 mo. asking for her back anyway

[BackdoorJesus]

you're too young to be settling down, so keep nailing both chicks for as long as you can, and if you can't do that because of some ghey moral hangup, then dump girl #1 and continue on with girl #2.

I would also suggest you let down girl #1 easy if you take that route because if you're nice enough you will always be able to hit that shit again when things go south with girl #2.

But truly your best bet is to keep working both girls while you keep an eye out for #3.

[Anibal]

I couldnt disagree with BDJ more.

Here is some news to you buddy, you are a cheater. Dating more than 1 girl is never a good idea, things will go bad at some point and when they do nothing will be able to excuse you.

I love it when people in situations like this ask for advice, the thing is that without knowing how those girls are at least i cant say something that will really help you.

Here is what i have for you, the girl with the 2 year bf is very unlikely to leave him. Unless the guy is a complete douche and treats her like trash, chances are she wont leave him. Another thing why would you want to be with a girl that you know for a fact is a cheater ?

And last, to get mixed up with a girl who you know is on a relationship is 1000% stupid. The whole point of the girl with a bf is to try and fuck her knowing that she wont even expect a call because she has a bf. Like guilt free fuck or something like that.

Shit who knows ? Maybe she dumps the boyfriend to be with you and then you get married and live happily ever after.

[BackdoorJesus]

Come on Anibal, nowadays the odds of a couple that gets married under 30 actually staying together till death do they part is a little better than one in four.

Youth is the time to get experience sexually while building your education/career path, and then you can bring more to the table when you're ready for a mature, lifelong relationship that actually stands a chance of lasting into your old age.

You don't get locked into that shit too early or you miss too much of what life can offer, and generally you miss it when it's become "too late" (i.e. married with children).

oh and you can't call the guy a cheater until there's a ring on his finger so ease up on the name calling.

[Juan.Camaney]

Wow, I've never disagreed with Anibal more than I have now.

Okay, first off, if you are someone's first bf and took her virginity now a days, you are probably very young (maybe under 18 so if you are you are going to be banned).

What does that mean? It means you are in no way shape or form ready for any serious commited relationship. Want proof? Read what you just wrote. You aren't a cheater but cheated just this once cuz you were drunk? lol You sound just like me. Truth is, kid, most people that cheat do so when they are drunk. I know, I been cheating since my first gf and have been cheating ever since up until now, its a bad habit to break and you live trying to convince yourself you are okay for doing so.

Third, this chick that broke up with her man for you after two years....chances are she will do the same to you when you get boring. Its just truth.

Fourth, if your gf has no idea what is going on, eventually she will. Guilt is a summbitch and you will always go back to the thought of how it could have been if you left this girl for the new one...she will notice, things will get bad, and then you'll break up with her too.

So now that you have fucked up, you have to figure out if you want to do the responsible thing or the opportunist thing. The opportunist thing would be, keep stringing both of them along as long as you can and use them both for your own fun. The responsible thing to do would be to break up with girl 1 and tell girl 2 you would like to keep seeing her to see where this goes but that you aren't ready for a relationship until you are sure girl 1 is out of the picture.

What I would do if I were your age? Try to get a threesome going.

[aznjaijai]

actually im not as young as some of u may think, im in my early 20's still going to school. as of last night i sorta figured out wtf i was thinking so hard abt... im young-ish and can still fuck around. i aint marryng either. as for the situation.. her bf of 2 yrs jsut found out and actually gave her a 2 week get out of jail free card. so ima fuck her for the next 2 weeks and thne go back to life as it was.. i guess thatlly work. and a few months mb down teh line ill break up wiht my gf and find a new girl. u guys are right.. im young
as for th 3some.. i dont think itll fly but it wouldnt hurt to try. lmao

[CD]

Originally Posted by aznjaijai

actually im not as young as some of u may think, im in my early 20's still going to school. as of last night i sorta figured out wtf i was thinking so hard abt... im young-ish and can still fuck around. i aint marryng either. as for the situation.. her bf of 2 yrs jsut found out and actually gave her a 2 week get out of jail free card. so ima fuck her for the next 2 weeks and thne go back to life as it was.. i guess thatlly work. and a few months mb down teh line ill break up wiht my gf and find a new girl. u guys are right.. im young
as for th 3some.. i dont think itll fly but it wouldnt hurt to try. lmao

After reading this train wreck of a paragraph, I can't take you seriously anymore. Good luck, and once again, I have to agree with Juan.

[Juan.Camaney]

get out of jail free card? fuckin eh, in my day we called it an open relationship

[Anibal]

Jajajajaja read my first post again, that last line was intended as sarcasm... i cant see what else of what i wrote anyone could disagree with.

Doesnt really matter now, after that last post made by him it is clear to me that all this is shenanigans.

[joerockhead]

You had better of been having safe sex - I.E. a Condum!!!

Girl #2 has herpes and hooked up with you just to get even with Girl #1, I suggest you go to the doctor ASAP and get a check up!!

And then be honest with Girl #1, if you truly love her, and she truly loves you, it will work out. but be ready to walk (or maybe RUN!)

[fmb]

Some tough choices may be ahead. Why not tell your gf what's up? If she walks, so be it; you'll still be getting some ass from girl #2. Also, think about what Juan said: open relationship. If you're wanting some strange every now and then, an open relationship is right up your alley.

It's a great thing. Spend time with whichever woman you want. However, don't think this will not take some effort. Jealousy can rear its' ugly head. Expect some bumps in the road.

Oh yeah, take JRH's advice and get tested!

[imbill]

Oh yeah, take JRH's advice and get tested! girl # 1 must not have been the one for you or you wouldnt have been sniffin around girl #2 !!!!!! girl #2 will dump you like a hot horse shoe just like she did to her 2 year long bf and you wont know when it will happen ;o)) !!!!!!!! so you have become a member of the dogs asz club and didnt know it !!!! two are fun but you will find your self lookin over your shoulder wondering when one or the other is going to hit you with a ball bat !!!!!!! if you are bangin 2 and tellin us about it then you may be pres. of the dogs asz club till someone dethrones you (a gentleman never tells) !! Im sure you know the right thing to do or you wouldnt be askin us for permisson to do what is right and what is right is whats right for you !!!! remember girls have feelings also so be kind if you dump # 1 !!!!!

[habjad]

early 20's. Unable to spell or write and already able to make really bad decisions, yet we still allow you to have sex without consequences?

I only hope your spelling is not reflective of your real level of intelligence or ability to think things through. I do know it is "cool" for young people to deliberately screw with spelling, but, peeps, it sends the wrong message when talking about relationships in public.

Anyway, the good advice above is:

1 - unless you are a sociopath, the guilt will get you somehow. Sleepless nights (for bad reasons), indigestion, sweats, drinking, sudden urge to confess. It will get you

2 - cheating is cheating, married or not. It is one heck of a slipperly slope, and down that slope lie some really bad life decisions that will cost you hugely. Not just money, but health, friends and reputation. Learn from this, and make a promise to be monogamous (or at least serially monogamous) and only with partners who are not attached or committed

3 - get tested for all the various diseases. You can bet "open relationship guy" has gone out and fucked his way to hell as a way to "get back" at his cheating GF. She may look clean, smell nice and say she does not itch, but her BF is a major risk to your health and to your other sexual partners for years to come. Several personal friends have learned that a girls saying "we have an open relationship" or "he lets me screw around" really means "my other BF and I hate each other deep down, so we fuck strangers to hurt each other and we really are not careful about disease".

4 - make a decision. That is what adults do. Make a decision and stick with it, whatever the consequences.

Basically: Man Up, dude.

[Juan.Camaney]

2 - cheating is cheating, married or not. It is one heck of a slipperly slope, and down that slope lie some really bad life decisions that will cost you hugely. Not just money, but health, friends and reputation. Learn from this, and make a promise to be monogamous (or at least serially monogamous) and only with partners who are not attached or committed

You have to take his age into consideration, guy. He's probably still in his teens. Those relationships aren't meant to be taken seriously. Cheating is not cheating no matter what. If you aren't ready for a relationship and get into one and end up cheating, it teaches you to value your freedom. Also, going through so many women and cheating on them and fucking up when you get caught up teaches you to value the good woman that will eventually make you happy (if at all). Monogomy is nice and all, but at his age, it should not be a priority.

You're essentially asking a kid to man up. Impossible.