Serious question about anal.

[Devone16]

OK. Anything you do with a female is perfectly alright. As long as you aren't thinking about a guy, and as ong as it is her idea. You're a married man and will be with this woman for the rest of your life. Just as you want her to please your every whim, do the same for her.

Good luck. Oh yeah start with a tongue or finger first. Then move to butt plugs of different sizes.

[yammy]

Given the marriage is obviously running into problems, and you're having "I'm sick of you" type fights after only 5 mos, something else is up...

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.

Golden rule for marriage: Both of you have to be working towards the same goal of making the other happy. It's not 50/50. It's 70/70.

Also, if she's "sick of you", is this a test? I'd question her more about her infatuation with doing this to clarify that it really is a fantasy, or if it is something else. Obviously you love the gal a ton, and hopefully she's on the same level... but the "sick of you" stuff is relevant.

I know this may sound a bit twisted, but if she's hiding from you that she really finds it appalling, is it a test? Many women might actually find a guy taking a strap on up the butt an emasculating. If she's testing you (a very passive aggressive method), and you accept it too readily, well... She may find another reason to be really sick of you.

I know that is going wayyyy out on a limb, and it probably has no relevance. You know your own marriage best. I know my relationship with my Wife is one where if she asked me to do that, I'm 99.9999% sure its not a test. But we don't have "sick of you" episodes and have been married a lot longer than 5 mos.

Whatever the case, be certain that's what she really wants. Be confident that if she's into it, its no sweat (if that's the way you feel), but that you are in control of the whole thing.

I'd also suggest a trade off -- especially if you're uncomfortable. Do you have any fantasies? Are you into toys? Would you like to see her masturbate while you watch? Do you want her to dress up like Marry Poppins? (hey, who knows... I throw that in to make the point that it is YOUR fantasy is YOURS to share!)

Whatever the case:

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.

Keeping shit inside is the death of most marriages. Communicate, and you'll get beyond the "sick of you stuff"... If not, you'll save yourself the 3 kids divorce after 10-years when shit builds up that was never communicated and one of you dumps the other.

[cowboy085]

i agree with most of the posts above but man take it in the ass? i dunno...im 21 and when i was 18 i dated a 27 year old, we had some crazy sex and one time she started feeling around down that side of me and i stopped it, she never put her finger in me but it was just wierd. i do have friends that have had girls finger them while they fucked and a few said they didnt mind and it felt alright but a strap on? thats a whole different ball game. id say if you want to help with her needs than maybe start off with her fingering you a little, and see if you, i dont want to say like it, but maybe can deal with it. then go on from there. this is a serious issue and im sure that she will understand if you decline. good luck with it man

[Anibal]

that might just be one of the biggest and truest demonstrations of love in the world, letting your girl givit to you from behind. I say go for it, but be sure to get something in return, thats a big sacrifice you will be doing for her fullfiling her fantasy

[scruberic]

yeah i mean if you love her go for it. It's not like your gay or anything.
Any update?

[darksyde]

I say go for it, it's not that big of a deal. As long as she doesnt buy John Holmes replica the pain is almost non exsistant. In fact I wouldnt even call it "pain"

[fmb]

Update dude?! Things go ok? No ER visit, right?

[jerknoneout]

i think u should let her do it; evict any body hanging around in there first

[jasefm]

Yammy, great advice. Really like the 70/70.
This depends on the type of girl... Do you trust her? Does she trust you? With the girl I'm with now it would be a test. She has hot friends and I'd find a trade off, but it would only be a test. I've never done this but when I was younger I had several opertunities that I should have taken advantage of. Five months is nothing...

A father lion ans his son are sitting on a hill looking at a hurd of deer. The son says, "Hey dad, let's run down and fuck us a couple of deer"! The father in his wisdom replys, "No son, let us walk down and fuck them all".

[Necrocannibal]

Sorry I havent been on here in awhile but here is an update.


I decided to let her do it. We tried it and while it was kind of uncomfortable it wasnt "bad" I guess for lack of a better word. We both agreed its something that we "could" do from time to time but not everytime or anything, more like maybe once or twice a year. After doing it I dont feel "gay" or anything and am glad we tried it. Thanks to everyone who commented and guys, be open to try new things with your spuses.

[darksyde]

Bravo buddy!

[toomasio]

start with a finger first...i think that would hurt...lol

[mightyshrew]

Interesting that we have hang ups about these things. The ass can bring pleasure to both women and men but we perceive it differently because we mentally connect it to being gay. Jack yourself off while she does your ass...you may find it more pleasurable than you thought.

[jShizz]

Originally Posted by Necrocannibal

Sorry I havent been on here in awhile but here is an update.


I decided to let her do it. We tried it and while it was kind of uncomfortable it wasnt "bad" I guess for lack of a better word. We both agreed its something that we "could" do from time to time but not everytime or anything, more like maybe once or twice a year. After doing it I dont feel "gay" or anything and am glad we tried it. Thanks to everyone who commented and guys, be open to try new things with your spuses.

Good for you. It is all about being comfratable in your relashonship with your spouse, which unfortunately is hard to come by these days!

[jasefm]

You the man!