Getting GF to cum more than once?

[clipse]

Hi

I am having trouble getting my current GF to cum more than once through intercourse.... eg. I might use my fingers/ tongue to make her have a clitoral O, and then manage to make her cum again through regular intercourse, but if we then keep going, I can't make her cum again. She says she doesn't think she can.

Are some girls like that, or am I doing something wrong? I've not had a problem with this before.

Thanks

[siopawman]

yeah, some girls are like that.

and it mostly depends on her mood. if she's really horny, then you won't have that much trouble making her cum the 2nd time.

[Juan.Camaney]

Some girls are multi, some girls are one and done, some girls just can't cum. Pick your battles. Sex is enjoyable to women without the big o....but its just more fun when its there.

[maggiesdragons]

At most I can only O 2 times, and thats if I am really horny, other then that it is normally just once.

[Queso]

many girls only cum once. hell, a huge percentage don't/can't get off during sex at all.

nothing wrong with you dude

[Dr. Weezil]

Relaxation, massage, and deep breathing are a good start.

[Anibal]

Foreplay helps a lot, and then it depends on what gets her going. Some girls like when you talk to them and tell them how pretty they are, others like for you to talk real dirty, others... you get the point. That and positions help too, some girls (specially when they are your gf) dont really like a position but when they see how much you like it they just dont say anything until its time to change it, so that will kill your chances of an O for a while.

I think you get the point, its all about knowing what she likes and dislikes. And even knowing that there are girls that just wont cum not even once, so again if you know her well and you know that about her just make it as enjoyable as possible and she will apreciate it.

[fmb]

Listen to what she tells you she likes. Try it when you're doing your thing. Be patient. If it happens, it happens.

[tkd_guy01]

Depends on the girl. My last gf could never orgasm through intercourse. It was strange for me because the girl before could.

[jeffc574]

Try oral/fingers to more than one O then f*cking. The other thing is what are you doing after she cums with you in her? She will let you know what feels best.

[cmlclm22]

I used to be able to cum 5-6+ times, now once or twice if I'm lucky 3 times. Nothing is wrong just quit trying so hard!!!

[yammy]

Keep in mind the obvious. On average, most guys are wired to get fired up with little stimulation -- at the word Go, they can blow and be on their way with practically any women who meets their visual standards. Generally, Women require a far deeper emotional attachment -- trust required, or willingness for reckless abandon -- ala drinking or a "the hell with it" flingish mentality.

On a deeper level, it Depends on the girl and her comfort zone / mental zone. Cumming for them takes a lot of letting go and being vulnerable. The more comfortable, the more likely a repeated orgasm. But there's a lot to be concerned about that can take a gal out of the zone, like the issue of pregnancy for those not in a committed relationship. Or, it can be outside the bed issues that fall back in. Those issues are far more likely if you take even a short break / don't keep her motor humming.

Just the same, many women don't have the full comfort zone with their their bodies / how they work / how they look. More than a handful, after one O, "sober up" and get self conscious. Many are terribly self conscious of certain positions showing off their parts too revealing. That especially applies if a gal is triggered to squirt and she's not done it before / was not planning on it / thinks she lost bladder control. She'll go from wild repeat orgasms to turning off lickity split!

Communication, communication, communication. Most gals will open up to multi with the right relationship / balance of trust / if they have the capacity to let go. That goes hand in hand, and if you're only new BF and GF or really don't talk much, don't just expect 100% trust for her motor to be 100% open to you. Not that some girls can't totally be open to it, but its very rare.

Don't hesitate to bring it up to her, but do so in a conversation about making sex better vs. "why aren't you comfortable enough to have multiple O's?" The latter pulls up walls vs. joint exploration into fun. Also, take to heart the foreplay concept.

Also, a final note: A common problem even in longer term relationships is the couple get lazy about warming the other one up, and its "one and done." Spend some time learning some massage stress reducing techniques and mix them with erotic techniques as you move forward. The more you build her up to wanting it vs. plowing on in (even if she wants that), the more she's gotta commit to lusting for you taking care of business. Really, when someone spends the time on the other to properly warm up the motor, a multiple O is virtually guaranteed. Why, I guarantee it!