Do I need to worry?

[btlook1]

Ok here it is. I'm married for 14 years. Before that went out with one person for all of high school like 5 years or something. Recently she's coming around and wanting to hook up. She still looks good and want's to spend some "quality" time with me. I mean I love my wife but then again I'm not happy and she's not either.
So anyway last weekend I hooked up with her we talked and hung out for several hours then it got heavy she's married also. We started getting it on when she suddenly yells stop I can't do this! She immediatly put's her clothes back on then wants to go home. So I drop her at her car she's hardly even speaking to me at this time says see ya and heads out! Oh and while she's getting out of my truck she says she's going to tell her hubby! Fast forward a couple of days I'm now getting e-mail from her with apologies all over it then I get another e-mail tonight at work saying she want's to get together again. What do you guys think? Please be honost and bash me if you want for cheating but hey this girl holds the key to my heart and probably always will! What would u do?????? :eek3d:

[tsmo]

what would I do? Id sit down and figure out if getting shot by her ol man is worth it..

You say you arent happy in your current marriage... 14 years dude. 14 years. you've invested alot of time to just.. not be happy.. youll need to elaborate on that.

any kids? if no, and your seriously not happy.. and neither is your better half so you say.. then end it. why stay apart of something you arent happy with..

if you do have kids. then you seriously need to reflect on the why part of why your unhappy.. again, youll need to elaborate on that.. if its.. Im not getting enough sex. join the fucking club dude. thats marriage..

now.. as for your ol high school sweetheart. who knows what shes thinkin.. you have no clue in what state of mind she is in. so you cant really figure her into your life until she deals with her marriage in her own way..

I would steer clear.

If you decide to end your marriage. you can let your piece on the side know.. but dont expect her to drop what she has for you.. thats a rarity..

my ultimate advice.. figure out what the fuck is making you miserable, and work to fix it if you can.. 14 years is along time to trash.

[TAD30]

Hmmmm tough one. Im a believer in what will be will be and everyone deserves to be happy. But on saying this you need to end one relationship before you begin another otherwise your bang out of order.

If you and your wife are unhappy, the first thing you need to do is sit down and talk to her, then figure it out from there.

[Juan.Camaney]

Ok here it is. I'm married for 14 years. Before that went out with one person for all of high school like 5 years or something. Recently she's coming around and wanting to hook up. She still looks good and want's to spend some "quality" time with me. I mean I love my wife but then again I'm not happy and she's not either.
So anyway last weekend I hooked up with her we talked and hung out for several hours then it got heavy she's married also. We started getting it on when she suddenly yells stop I can't do this! She immediatly put's her clothes back on then wants to go home. So I drop her at her car she's hardly even speaking to me at this time says see ya and heads out! Oh and while she's getting out of my truck she says she's going to tell her hubby! Fast forward a couple of days I'm now getting e-mail from her with apologies all over it then I get another e-mail tonight at work saying she want's to get together again. What do you guys think? Please be honost and bash me if you want for cheating but hey this girl holds the key to my heart and probably always will! What would u do?????? :eek3d:
Stand her up. She might be wanting to meet you because her over jeallous asshole husband wants to "meet" you. Say you will meet her somewhere. Then stand her up. THEN, when she sends you angry email or something, tell her you got cold feet (just like she did so she should understand) then...if she offers again, you know she wants the cack.

1. If you got married and some other girl held the key to your heart, you probably shouldn't have gotten married.
2. If you want to cheat, be prepared to lose your wife and half your shit.
3. Make sure you aren't doing this just for some ass.

[TheMooninites]

What tsmo and Juan.©amaney said is pretty much what I would have said.

Though I will say before you do anymore with her, determine whether or not you wanna work it out with your wife or get a divorce.

And like tsmo said, could you give us more information like if you have kids and what not.

[linthat22]

The way I see it, a marriage is a bond between two people. You get married because you love each other, can't stand to be away from one another, enjoy each others company, love hearing each other laugh and reminiscse, love seeing the smile of the other person, love making love, etc.

You don't get married just because you need a filler.

If you and the misses aren't happy, talking usually helps sort the matter through. You never know, maybe it's something silly that's making her unhappy and vice/versa. If it's financial problems, those can be worked out too.

Communication is the key my friend. Good luck and I hope and pray you make the right decision.

[mtlslayer]

sounds like a big mess waiting to happen. i would take some time to evaluate the situation. are you sure you really still have feelings for this other girl or are u just remembering the "glory Days" of your past. it also sounds like she does not really know what she wants either. it could make for a very disgruntled husband if you 2 sleep together and then she gets to feeling guilty and tells her husband :shoot:

[elbenio]

I've been in a similar situation dude, so I can totally relate.

Based on that, here's my advice. Do your best to separate this chick from your thoughts for a while, and work on your marriage. As tsmo said, you need to figure out what's going on inside your marriage first of all. If you want out, that's fine (kids or no kids, it's better to get out otherwise you just make everyone else miserable as well), but don't be thinking "I want out so I can have this other bird", because after 14 years, chances are you probably won't be in the frame of mind to sustain a new relationship.

As for this old flame, she sounds more confused than you. Aside from the potential Knee-Capping that you could receive, do you really want to open this can of worms? You're unhappy and confused, she sounds the same. That's not the basis for a good relationship. If she really is someone who cares, then she'll understand that you have to work at your marriage, and will support you in that. If she doesn't then you've probably got a good heads up about her whole personality- "I want what I want, and that's all there is to it"

Don't throw away 14 years, unless your sure it really is garbage, and don't believe that the next relationship is gonna be as good as you imagine it would be. Reality very rarely lives up to the promotional advertising.

Good luck, I hope you get some peace of mind soon dude.