Hi Guys Pregnant Girlfriend Has Turned Into A Btich

[markharry]

I wondered if anyone can help. I dont know if its just me. I left my wife last year after years in an unhappy marriage. I had been working with this girl for a number of years. She had left where I worked. She contacted me at the end of the year, round october. She was in a state, had two kids by a previous marriage and a drug habbit and debt problems. I managed to pull her out of the abyss. We were not in a relationship at the start just friends. All her family couldnt stand her. We moved on together and started a new life happy with each others company. Her ex husband really couldnt be bothered with the children despite many attempts by me to get him to see them. I will never replace their father thats not something you can replace. We then deceided to emmigrate. For the first few months / weeks we had a great time working hard adjjusting to a new life in the sun and enjoying life. She then got pregnant planned. Since about the third or fourth week she hasnt been able to stand me or my company. I had to go back to sort my divorce out. She is on her own has decided she hates me and would rather be single. Is it hormones and will it change.

[gen. cutter]

I'm not sure anyone can know her better then you. But women, in my experience, don't become bitches just because they get pregnant. Besides the physical discomfort, a planned pregnancy is usually a happy thing for women. (It looked like you said it was planned.)

Off the cuff; it sounds like a pattern with this one. Maybe that's why the last dude chooses to stay far away.

Your big mistake was getting pregnant. Even if you dont live with her, you may be tied to this woman for a long time now. I feel for ya...

[Juan.Camaney]

But women, in my experience, don't become bitches just because they get pregnant.
Uh, yeah they do. Its hormones. Women who's favorite food was say strawberries, can't even bring themselves to smell them so much as eat them. Same thing with hatred. A cousin of mine's wife couldn't stand the motherfucker when she was knocked up. He took it very hard the first time since he couldn't enjoy his wife's pregnancy with her. After the second kid, he knew what was going on and just took to hanging out with his buds more often. They had to sleep in separate rooms even. After the kids pop out, they are back to being lovey dovey.

My advice, ride it out.:hay:

[gen. cutter]

Obviously, each of us can only speak from personal experience. But I've known many women who had alot of cravings and hormones but didn't treat their husbands and friends like a bitch just because they were pregnant.

But you're dealing with a pregnant, jilted mother of two, former drug addict with financial problems.

Almost the entire country is in a bad state right now. But you don't take it out on the ones you care for or care for you. That's a bitch move.

But give her time, for sure. Because of your new baby. Hopefully, she'll improve.

[Juan.Camaney]

Yeah, I understand one can only speak from experience...I used to basically live with this cousin when I lived in Vegas. I spent a lot of time there bbqing with them since they were my only family there (at the time). She's a sweetheart. I mean that, she is nice, soft spoken, treats him like a king...dude its sickening. But when she's pregnant....ugh. lol

[joerockhead]

Your first marriage was a hard hatred relationship
Your current relationship is a hard hatred relationship

Maybe it is not just the women. Look at yourself too.

[habjad]

Are you sure this is all the information one needs to base a decision upon?

Anything you said? Did?

Generally pregnancy makes women happier - all that Oxytocin and Seratonin. Yeah, it is ugly, fat and uncomfortable, but 1bn years of evolution ensured that reproduction is fulfilling and satisfying.

Which leaves:

1 - self esteem (you and her)
2 - historic reaction of partners to pregnancy and birth (you and ex-hubby)
3 - random mental health issues (not unexpected with drugs and broken relationships in the past)
4 - feeling lonely and isolated in a new country (you emigrated, right) at the time when a women most needs her friends, girl friends, family, mother, whatever. (even if she says she don't!)

Try working down that list, honestly, and see what comes through to you

Now, when people tell you it will be great, post-partum... THEY LIE! Post-partum depression, sleep deprivation, lactation, pain, grinding boredom, nappies full of sh*t, etc /might/ all contrive to take your angelic partner and turn her into a harpy for about 2 years post birth. Not for everyone, but for many, the first couple of years are a massive strain on any partnership.

My advice, soul search, discuss and sort it out now. Right now.

[markharry]

I am, i have been. I have tried to suppot her through everything. It just seemed as soon as got pregnant the only emoition she had towards me was either indifference or hate. She would rather spend time with friends than any time alone with me. I pushed the issue once. Before she got pregnant she would spend all of her time with me. I am not asking her to organise her social life around me just an example of how in three weeks a relationship can change so quickly. The fact that recently I have had to go away hasnt helped either. I dont want her to raise our child as a single mother. I would like to be with her. If that is not possible then I have no idea what I can do.

[Juan.Camaney]

Wait until after the birth dude, she will be back to loving you. Just don't push too hard right now. Its hormones, not your wife.

[Abbylicious]

Man, don't sweat it too much! I remember when my dad moved my mom into her own apartment when she was pregnant with my little brother. "Mommy just needs to be alone for a while."

That was about 3 months after they found out she was pregnant, and that three months was hell for all of us. 6 months later, he moved her and the baby back in, and everything was normal, with the exception of my little brother being around.

Granted, I hear that this isn't common, there is a small percentage of women who just do not enjoy pregnancy. It's the prize at the end of the finish line they appreciate, not the jog it takes to get there.

[emil2e]

My brother is in a similar situation. He is dating a girl and they are deeply in love, but she accidentally got pregnant and his life was hell until after she gave birth. Still many others issues with them, but at least they can be in the same room together without fighting.