ryster
09-26-2009, 12:27 AM
Hey there guys,
Two Monday's ago marked the end of my latest committed relationship, though it was and continues to be the most emotionally intense relationship, generally, of my life. The terms of the separation are somewhat unique (at least to my own experience); we stopped dating because of both distance and future, rather than the loss of feelings for each other. It's a pretty long story, including a few months of long-distance (i.e. two separate countries) in between a few months of togetherness. Where we a little older and ready to settle down it may have worked out, but we are both very busy and heading quickly in very different directions. We decided to remain friends after the breakup..whether or not it will stay that way in the coming months is yet to be seen, but for now it seems to be working (sorta...still having ups and downs related to the stresses of moving on and functioning as individuals rather than a couple). I think we both are hoping deep down that one day, years later, we can pick up back where we left off. We always talked about that while we dated (we always knew we would be breaking up at the end of the summer)..but a lot can happen in the 5 years that likely lie between now and then; my hopes are not high. But I suppose keeping in touch is the most we can do for now, and maybe we end up together after all.
Anyways, to the point, I've been thinking a lot lately about love, what it means, and how it works. After a few talks with my wise old man, I really think I've got it figured, at least for the most part. But I'm curious to see what everyone else has to say. Maybe someone has a take I haven't thought of that will blow my theory to pieces, or perhaps I'm on target with all the other deep thinkers out there.
I'll wait for some responses before I throw my thoughts in, I don't want to write a book and end up all views no replies.
Oh, and I hope this is in the right section. I suppose it could have gone in the Vag, but most of that stuff seems more practical than philosophical.
So, to the experienced community of WebRats, what is Love?
Two Monday's ago marked the end of my latest committed relationship, though it was and continues to be the most emotionally intense relationship, generally, of my life. The terms of the separation are somewhat unique (at least to my own experience); we stopped dating because of both distance and future, rather than the loss of feelings for each other. It's a pretty long story, including a few months of long-distance (i.e. two separate countries) in between a few months of togetherness. Where we a little older and ready to settle down it may have worked out, but we are both very busy and heading quickly in very different directions. We decided to remain friends after the breakup..whether or not it will stay that way in the coming months is yet to be seen, but for now it seems to be working (sorta...still having ups and downs related to the stresses of moving on and functioning as individuals rather than a couple). I think we both are hoping deep down that one day, years later, we can pick up back where we left off. We always talked about that while we dated (we always knew we would be breaking up at the end of the summer)..but a lot can happen in the 5 years that likely lie between now and then; my hopes are not high. But I suppose keeping in touch is the most we can do for now, and maybe we end up together after all.
Anyways, to the point, I've been thinking a lot lately about love, what it means, and how it works. After a few talks with my wise old man, I really think I've got it figured, at least for the most part. But I'm curious to see what everyone else has to say. Maybe someone has a take I haven't thought of that will blow my theory to pieces, or perhaps I'm on target with all the other deep thinkers out there.
I'll wait for some responses before I throw my thoughts in, I don't want to write a book and end up all views no replies.
Oh, and I hope this is in the right section. I suppose it could have gone in the Vag, but most of that stuff seems more practical than philosophical.
So, to the experienced community of WebRats, what is Love?