the ex

[rd5150]

why would you keep in contact with an ex? is it just for the possibility of hooking back up or am i that shallow and neurotic that i always read it that way?

i dont know what lead to this but her message to him was...

it was nice talking to you. do you have a gf? i hope so and i hope you love her.

his message back was

i still love you! with a pic of a bear holding a heart.

i dont see any other reason to even keep someones email address other that the opportunity in the future to hook up and if thats \the case what the hell did i spend the last 2 years with her for? has she been talking to him the whole time?

[CD]

Some exes can remain friends, but for the most part, conversation should be severely limited. It's possible that they broke up for reasons that wouldn't worry you, but his reply is fucked up. From her message, I'd trust your gf more than I would the ex she had.

[fmb]

Got to go with CD on this one. Personally, I've never had anything good come of exes. They call them "ex" for a reason. This is where your trust in her get tested. Right now, I wouldn't put to much into him. She's been with you for two years; there's much to be said about that.

[Juan.Camaney]

My question is...why the fuck o you care? Mind your own business and keep out of exes lives altogether. I hate that my mom makes it a point to keep in touch with most of mine. Whores.

[Anibal]

Honestly man, your fucked now. That message will never leave your head and if you confront her about it chances are the discussion wont end well. Mainly because you shouldnt have been checking her messages in the first place, oh and even if you did stumble with the message in the most unwanting way it doesnt matter.

If i where you id talk to her, right now you know nothing. Maybe thats the only time she contacted him, maybe they have been talking to each other for a long time.

Talk to her in the most calmed way possible and hope for the best.

[polarbear79]

i'd like to keep a friendship going with my exes, sometimes with benefits. no complaints so far :)

[marcus707]

yeah, sometimes it's just holding onto an emotional attachment. I hate the whole "they were such an important part of my life I just can't cut them out" shit.

Ex's are just that.

[tkd_guy01]

What ever relationship you have with the ex is fine until you get the new g/f. That's when you really have to start worrying :)

[Patito]

Depending on how it ends and how serious it was. I have a few people I've slept with that I'm still very good friends with (without the benefits), but there's the ex's also that I don't ever want to see again. Not because I didn't love them, but because they were an unhealthy relationship. I know that if they were around I'd eventually fool around with them again and as much as I enjoyed the sex, they're not someone I want to be with long term. Any ex that's still in my life now is because we were friends to begin with, we had a clean break-up, and still enjoy talking with each other. I don't talk with any of my ex's on a regular basis though.