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michaeljohn
07-21-2009, 04:55 PM
Let's start this way. Many of you are probably in your twenties. Think back to the time you could first ejaculate. Orgasms were a lot better back then, weren't they? The male is supposed to reach his sexual peak around age 16-17. This isn't to say you will never enjoy sex and your orgasm again, it's just to say we were better back then.

As we get older, the power goes down a bit. Men remain fertile their entire lives, women don't. Myself, I have found that pornography does nothing to stimulate my sexual desires. I don't get aroused watching movies or looking at pics on my computer. So, when I remain single, arousal is not an issue. I don't often get aroused and it doesn't bother me that I don't.

However, give me a woman, and I am just fine. Or rather the bits and pieces rise to the challenge. At age 54, I have never even felt like I needed a dose of Viagra.

My history with women in bed was consistent in one respect until recently. With every lady I had been to bed with, I was never able to orgasm during the first encounter. Actually, this is not a bad thing at all. It leads to your lover having multiple orgasms, and she simply will need you back for more time and time again.

My current girlfriend has turned out differently for me. I have came each and every time I have been with her, and also fairly quickly. I am trying to figure out exactly why. I don't come so fast she gets left out, because I take care to make certain she receives proper pleasure. I do this with cunninglingus, and drive her wild until she wants me inside of her. There are two other important factors. First, my penis girth is way above average. Second, her vagina is extremely tight. Even after arousing her, her opening is extremely narrow and I have to press a bit to get my penis inside of her. Once inside, I get a feeling I never had before, her vaginal walls snugly squeeze my penis. I have no problem exercising the proper motion as she is well lubed inside naturally. So, what happens to me is, I experience new sensations I never had before and reach a climax fairly quickly. This isn't to say every other woman I have had is loose, it's just that she is extremely tight.

I think if men fear losing their potency, it could be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sex is like riding a bike. Once you learn you never forget. As we age, we simply have to find ways to remain interested and capable of having sex.

That's all, let's see where this thread goes. I don't need advice, I just wanted to share, and perhaps compare similar thoughts and instances with the members here. Female input is most welcome, they can tell us about lovers at various ages.

Juan.Camaney
07-23-2009, 04:53 PM
I'll bite.

I am trying to figure out exactly why.
She makes you feel comfortable.

When I'm with someone new, unless we kiss a lot before hand and I close my eyes and get into it, it takes me a while to get hard. No reason why, other than my body needs to feel comfortable. If I'm with someone and I think too much about things...like "will I catch shit for this?" "is this the right thing to do?" "will she tell anyone about this?" "if its bad, will she blame me?" etc. Until I get all of that to go away, I just get them to go down on me for a while and that usually does the trick. Again, unless I'm really into it, I'll lose my erection as soon as I'm done. If I was into it, I keep it and go again and again and.....

As a kid when I first started masturbating (before I even could ejaculate). I would just jack off for hours, one after another until my dick was raw. The first orgasm was always the best...the others were meh. As I got older, and ejaculated, I could only do a few times before I needed a long break (30 minutes to an hour). Orgasms in quality have been the same, sometimes better.

The thing with orgasms is, how did you get to the top, not how was the top when you got there. Anyone who works out knows the high you get after your cool down. So when I get into it, really work it, climax together with the partner, then cool down etc....its intense!

There is no way that men reach their peaks at 18. At 18 you know like 2 positions, missionary and doggy. That just isn't my definition of peak. Now a days I have an enormous ammount of information and an able body and penis and mind control. I've been having sex daily for a while now, 2-3 times a day. Every orgasm is good, but again, it matters on how we got there. I'm blessed with a gf that comes 4-5 times before I do so I know I won't get complaints. I do wish I was a little lighter so that we can do more and go longer, but hey...she isn't complaining.

In short, sex is what you make of it. If you lose interest in it as you get older, you need to spice it up. If your wife looks like she got her ass beat by the ugly stick and then set on fire....it won't matter what the fuck you do....sadly. Just pick up golfing.

Juan.Camaney
07-23-2009, 04:54 PM
^^^ I'm turning 30 this year for reference.

Anibal
07-23-2009, 08:07 PM
I dont know what to say, i cant relate given the fact that i am only 23.

But in my short experience sex is only getting better, from the flirting to the orgasm and everything in between. The quality of orgasms doesnt really bother me, honestly the best orgasms ive had have been under the influence of drugs.

justlookn
07-24-2009, 12:26 AM
I am 37 and I am like Michael John. It really takes alot to get me fired up. I dont need any help like viagra because I still get hard as a rock. I have to make a production out of sex or it just aint worth it to me. On the other hand she loves it because I spend alot of time on her and she usually gets multiples. I also dont produce as much cum as I used to. I just tell myself it is because I am getting older and it is just the circle of life for me. I am in great shape, thin, and eat fairly healthy. Just my .02.

Juan.Camaney
07-24-2009, 10:18 AM
Just remember that its use it or lose it....if you are too busy for sex and only have it once a week or two....then don't be surprised if when you want it immediately, it takes a week or two to achieve erection :juan:

carstunts
08-30-2009, 10:33 AM
I'd have to say I've gotten better over time because of all the relationships I've been in and all the sexual experience I've had. I always focus on the woman and make sure she feels good. I love being told that I'm the "best" in bed. She comes many times and sometimes it takes a lot of stimulation for me to come, but when I do come, it's a lot. I tend to last long in bed. I'm 23 and I'm still having fun. And yes... it helps being with someone that gets your rocks off and you are comfortable as well. As a sidenote, just recently, I find that if it gets hot in a room, you can lose your erection even though you still sorta feel like you are in the mood. Ever happen to you?

fmb
08-30-2009, 07:20 PM
I'm 39 and haven't had any trouble. Sex has always been fun and for the most part, very plentiful. I've tried to spend my time focusing on the woman I was with; I figured if she's having a great time, she'll spend time making sure I have a great one, too. The only change I've noticed has come about (no pun intended) is a slightly longer time for me to attain an erection. Why? I don't have a clue.

Juan.Camaney
08-31-2009, 10:36 PM
Just remember, the older you get the older your partners usually get. Women who know what they want wont go for the two pump chump, so practice!

gen. cutter
10-19-2009, 12:18 PM
Chris Rock said, in his last stand-up: Men have two orgasms. The normal sex or masturbation cum spurt; we can do that all day, everyday. But when the girl you're with is doing everything just right for you, exactly the way you like it, touching you there or saying what you like, whatever your favorite fantasy is; it'll shoot like a fire hose.

I have always found that to be the truth.

MaxZorin
10-26-2009, 01:20 PM
She makes you feel comfortable.

I'm 26 guys and i feel the same. My girls makes my head spin round so fast and i can barely keep control of the situation.
I never had that kind of sensation before, so now i have to start with some foreplay before getting into bussiness. But that's not wrong, after all women love that. They love when you're tender and soft and gentle with her body so, they appreciate yor efforts with her entire arsenal of sexual pleasure knowledge.
So, the warmup it's not necessarily bad or a sign you're loosing your modjo, au contraire, it's a sign you are a dedicated lover who cares for your girl and wants she have an amazing time with all that you can give her.
I've always believe that good sex it's a combination of time, quality and passion.
Hope you like my oppinion

joerockhead
10-30-2009, 07:57 PM
Yes, I have found that on a regular basis I cannot MB early in the day, then be hard enough to satisfy my G/F later that day. Also, I do not need to MB each and every day anymore. Let alone multiple times a day. at least not always.

I have found that sex with my current G/F is very good, and though not as often as I would like, very enjoyable. But that is because she is a great G/F.

yet I do find that most my ejaculations are very enjoyable, especially when with my G/F.