relationship problems

[itsmyfallt]

Long backstory, sorry

the girl i have been dating has an ex, she dated him for around 3 1/2 years, she has dated someone inbetween him and i, but, they broke up because she had lied to him about talking to this ex, then ended up repetitively seeing him, while lying about it. Since she and i have gotten together, i have caught her lying about talking to him several times over the last 9 months or so. This kid, who is a total waste of a person, has been involved in hardcore drugs since he was about 14. his latest thing is massive uses of heroine. so the other day he decided to do too much, and gets rushed to the hospital. So now she decides she wants him back in her life, and tells me that she will talk to him and visit him whenever she wants. I told her that was not going to happen. She is now screaming and yelling that i am controlling and unreasonable.
keep in mind, she is 18 i am 21

I have two questions

1. am i being controlling and unresonable given her past history of screwing people over with him?

2. if she insists on continuing with her current course of action, would the wisest thing for me to do be to just cut it off, or give her a chance at being friends with this kid?

[CD]

Cut it off. Any girl who repeatedly lies to you about another guy will only bring you heartache later on. Cut it off now, and find a girl who doesn't care more about a loser drug addict then you.

Frankly though, I'm a little shocked that you even have to ask.
1) Controlling? It doesn't matter since she's a waste of a girlfriend.
2) See the first part of my reply.

[Indigenous]

Walk away. Run away. Steal a fucking Vespa and scoot away if you have to.

This girl just sounds like trouble. The only thing she may have going for her is that she's 18 and she might just be your average-teenage-girl-kinda-nuts that she'll hopefully grow out of in a few years.

She's lied to her last boyfriend, she's lying to you and over what? A fucking dope fiend?

If she's still this hung up on the guy who popped her cherry back in 8th grade then she probably needs to find out the hard way that this guy is bad news.

So step back, bow out gracefully and get the hell outta there before this whole thing blows up in her face.

[deadfish]

I can't agree more with CD and Indigenous. Putting any more of your time and energy into this sort of relationship will only be a waste and could end up hurting you.

And, honestly, you KNOW you cannot trust this girl. And a girl you can't trust is not worth your time.

Good luck with your decision, itsmyfallt.

[itsmyfallt]

decision has been made, cut it off today, got my clothes, my keys, and my dignity back and cut the losses, and man did that piss her off :)

[CD]

decision has been made, cut it off today, got my clothes, my keys, and my dignity back and cut the losses, and man did that piss her off :)
Congrats. You seem to take our advice so much better and easier then most here. In fact... I've got some rep for you and your damn good decision.

[Juan.Camaney]

decision has been made, cut it off today, got my clothes, my keys, and my dignity back and cut the losses, and man did that piss her off :)
Now change your phone number.

[joerockhead]

Good choice, and good luck. Hope you find someone that is responsible and honest.

[fmb]

Im with CD on this one. REP for you!

You probably made the best decision of your whole life. That situation was nothing but destined for the septic tank. Like you said, you lied to a previous boyfriend and lied to you about the overdosing, skank druggie.

Hell, you're 21. Get your butt out into the world and find some new honeys. Why worry about a relationship? Test the waters, date around (nothing serious), and find out just what you really like in a woman.

Better to learn now than after a divorce. Or two.

[DaneBox2884]

trust is key. if there's no trust then why bother?
plus. she still has that emotional attachment to him. or maybe she just like his drugs?