A little relationship help

[matty0500]

Hey everyone, i have a bit of a relationship dilemma, so i thought who better to ask than the guru's on WR.
Basically, I've been dating the same girl since I was 16 (i'm now 20) and the relationship has become a little stale. I usually just kind of ignore it and continue on with life. Sometimes it feels like i'm married at 20 (which neither I nor her want to be) because all we do is watch movies. We don't really share any common interests, which is a bit of a bummer but we get along great. I think that's why our relationship has lasted so long. She really is an amazing girl, she's one of the nicest people i know and we have honestly never gotten into an argument (a serious one at least.)
Well, recently i met a girl that seems just fucking incredible. She's my age, actually went to college with me, although i never met her there, works in the same general field as i do (electrical,) shares a lot of the same interests as i do like cars etc. I really think we could have a lot of potential compatibility. We've talked a bit and we get along great. It just seems like a bit of a kick in the ass to get out there and experience different people and things, when i meet a girl like this.
The problem i have is my girlfriend is the nicest person i know, and if it were later in life, i would have no hesitation to stay with her (i think). She's very clingy, and i have no idea how she would react to the news. What makes it even harder is she has no idea. If i give her even the slightest indication that something is off, she will have a breakdown.
It just seems like right now, i ought to be out there trying different things. It's just a very difficult decision for me. I think i know the answer. I've talked with a really close friend about it, and we've drawn a conclusion, but i'm just looking for other's perspectives.
Anyhow, input is greatly appreciated. Thanks guys/gals.

[CD]

The first thing you find is not necessarily the best thing you will ever find. Break up, because watching a lot of movies is not "living the life". She may be nice, but there is more to life then sitting on the couch.

[scotty2Ts]

i can relate to a lot of what you said. i dated the same girl from 16 - 23. around 21 i started getting the same itch you are. i lived in a party pad where we had girls over every night of the week (mind you my girl was in college 2 hours away that fall). it became almost unbearable to the point that i actually broke down and cheated, worst feeling of my life, not the next day when i thought about it, but the day my girl found out a year and a half later and i watched her breakdown kinda like you said yours would.. anyway different story different time. my advice to you is if you really truly love this girl, you gotta put temptations behind you. it may sound like bad advice and there's people here that wouldn't agree with me and thats fine, but you have to look at the long term. i did cheat just to scratch the itch, and it felt good for those 15 drunk minutes, but those 15 drunk minutes possibly cost me a lifetime of happiness with, what i realize now, was the girl of my and any other mans' dreams. i'm not calling you a cheater though, i'm just trying to say mistakes are so easy to make when you act on tempations. so be careful, overpowering temptations is one of the hardest thing anyone can do, but living with regret for the rest of your life is on a whole different level... hope it helped a little

[Juan.Camaney]

You are pussy whooped. You get it regularly and thats why you stay there.

Your GF is codependant. Its going to be a bitch trying to get rid of her and if you do break up, she will be one of those that keeps going back, and because you are used to the same pussy, and familiar pussy is the best pussy, will take her back. You have no reason for being in this relationship other than she is a nice girl who gives you what you want. Which, in essence, is reason enough IF you weren't so fucking young, dumb, full of cum and have no idea what the fuck you want. Yeah, had you met her later in life after you met a hundred skanks, it might have been better, but then again it might have been different because you actually knew how horrible some women are. So now, suffer through the punishment of settling down with a great girl too early in life, breaking a perfectly fine girl's heart and live with the brand that all women in her place label us as....ASSHOLE, because you didn't have enough vagina points in your life to know better.

Its gonna be rough, guy, you know what your body wants, and your heart tells you otherwise, but at your age and not having had enough pussy, you are going to fuck it up somehow...I think you already did, honestly, since you speak of this new chick like she is a god and you'll probably make the same mistake and put the pussy on the pedestal and date her too long too. In the end, everyone will be more miserable about it and after a few days months or years, it will be the best decision you ever made...unless some guy snatches her away from you and she dumps you first. :juan:

[fmb]

You're still very young. Why worry about marriage, finding the right person, etc. at this point in your life? Why not finish school, date some other women, and live life just a little bit?

There's no need to rush into anything. There's plenty of time to get married. Take your time, date around, and take the time to learn a little about what you like or don't like in a woman.

[CD]

I like how these dudes tell us the girl they met at 16 is the perfect girl. Yeah... what are the fuckin chances the search is over at 16!!!!

[matty0500]

hmmm, maybe i worded my first post wrong. marriage is the last thing on my mind right now. all i was saying is that's kind of what i feel like with the relationship i'm in now. Also wasn't trying to portray the other chick as i'm idolizing her or anything, just pointing out that it might be different dating someone that actually has common interests. And cheating is not an option at all, i could never do that. Thanks for the opinions though guys, it's helped a lot.

[MaxZorin]

Dude, i had the same problem month ago but i didn´t had the balls to ask in here. My respects for your courage.
As CD wrote at the begining, lying on a couch it´s not a real life. and also, experimenting new things it´s what add some spice on your life. I´m pretty sure you don´t wanna be the guy who´s gonna be sitting on a bar in the next 20 years asking himself WHY i didn´t do it? WHY i didn´t have the balls?
It´s noble to care about how shes gonna take the news, but you also have to think for yourself and what you really need and really expect in your life.
So, my advise, breakup, as fast as you can, if you take much time it´s gonna be more painful or worst, you won´t dare to do it and you´re gonna loose the new cheek you met.

[Indigenous]

it sounds like the reason you've been with this girl this long is because... well, because you've been with her this long.

Just because a relationship isn't "bad" doesn't mean it's good either. A lot of people think they have a happy, healthy relationship just because they don't argue or yell or scream or whatever.

I'd say that you both need to get out of this relationship. Not because either of you, or the relationship itself is bad, but because you both need to get out there and find out who you are.

[Weezer1982]

It wont work if your heart is not totally into it. Take a look at your relationship and see whats missing. The best thing to do is to take a break but you have to talk to her and make her understand where you are coming from.

[matty0500]

Thanks a lot guys, that's pretty much what i've been thinking, just need a little reinforcement. Indigenous, i think you hit it right on. That's exactly what's going on, even though it's not bad, it's not good. I really appreciate all the help guys. Now, how to go about doing this? haha...