Very Embarrassing

[Cards705]

Ok so I guess let me start out by saying please show mercy. Ive posted on here before about my relationship problems but nothing to this effect. I was going out w/ this girl and she ended up breaking up w/ me. We went out for five years and I was thinking about marriage. Im over it!!! However there are lasting effects... This girl was the only one I have had sex with. I had sex w/a complete random and it was good...however I couldnt really get it up, I really had to try at it. I was a in a quick relationship and now Im dating a new girl. Last night we ended up having sex (she is only my third) but I wasnt that hard. I find the girl very attractive and I really had to work hard again to get me semi hard and the sex wasnt good or at least on my part. I have never really had this problem before and I know its psychological. Has anybody been in this situation before. I do like this girl and I really didnt think much of it before but I feel like its a problem now.

[skept]

Mate your not over her yet.. its obvious.. i think you have to accept its over then get right into the random sluts.

[Cards705]

I really do feel like I am over her though...I really want nothing to do with her. The only thing that I can think of is maybe Im feeling self con...cause I was w/her for so long and no one else. The only time she creeps in my head is when Im about to have sex w/ another girl and its a total downer

[Juan.Camaney]

You are not over her or ever will be. It sucks, but happens to all of us. Your first love is your strongest if it lasted that long. It took me well over 2 years to be able to have sex with a girl I didn't know and not having it involve alcohol or drugs. Gets better with time. You are one of those types that isn't capable of having good sex without strong emotions. Your next relationship that lasts long enough and you feel strongly for will make the 1st one go away.

[Juan.Camaney]

Just something to make you think, it's been almost 5 years since I broke up with the woman I was in a similar situation with and I still have issues involving her and my sex life.

[malichi]

I think the more comfortable you are with the new chick the more into her you will be with a hard penis

[jeffc574]

Relax when you are with the new girl. It will get better. Just concentrate on the girl in front of you and your mutual good time.