Girl/Girl, Same-room, Threesome

[abcde123]

I remember reading a similar thread to this one awhile back, but not completely. My girl and I have been talking for a long time about her trying some G/G action, trying a ffm threesome, or some same room with G/G action. She doesn't want MMF or swapping, but before anyone says it, I am comfortable with both if/when it comes to that. We've found a couple of people that are agreeable to all three scenarios.

We've been together 14 years, married for 9. Who has experience with any of this? Advice? Do you think it's worth it?

[BackdoorJesus]

bringing a third person into a relationship can only bring two people closer


right...:rolleyes:

[kulotsalot]

I think that's nuts, but I'm not a sharer. :)

[Juan.Camaney]

After 14 years, 9 married, she wants to start? No.

Talking about it is fun, but actually going through it will end in pain.

Buy a real doll or if possible, take her to a legal brothel. I'd just keep it a fantasy, to be honest. Every girl I've met who has wanted girl to girl always had a hard time getting passed the "I wasn't expecting it to taste so bad" stage.

[abcde123]

well, I really expected much more of a response from the webrats audience than was given here. Thanks to you guys who are always faithful members of the board kulots, juan, and backdoor.
We have talked with several couples, and met with one this week to get to know them for possible girl/girl and same-room. Nothing more than that. Nothing happened this time as it was public a public meeting. I think we'll probably meet again soon and a little will happen between the girls, but not too much.

Why are you guys so sure this is a bad idea? Some of these people we've talked to have been doing this for years and are content and happy. (I'm not saying that to argue that we will br - I'm just saying that it does seem to work out for some and you guys seem to be saying no way for anyone.)

[Juan.Camaney]

well, I really expected much more of a response from the webrats audience than was given here. Thanks to you guys who are always faithful members of the board kulots, juan, and backdoor.
We have talked with several couples, and met with one this week to get to know them for possible girl/girl and same-room. Nothing more than that. Nothing happened this time as it was public a public meeting. I think we'll probably meet again soon and a little will happen between the girls, but not too much.

Why are you guys so sure this is a bad idea? Some of these people we've talked to have been doing this for years and are content and happy. (I'm not saying that to argue that we will br - I'm just saying that it does seem to work out for some and you guys seem to be saying no way for anyone.)
I'll tell you the same thing I tell others when they see people doing alright despite living an alternative lifestyle that is dangerous....there are dozens of people who have lived after being shot in the head. It doesn't mean it always happens that way.

Bottom line, if you want to be a swinger, go for it. If you and your wife can live that way, do it. I wouldn't, but that's just me. Losing a wife that way seems less attractive than me finding other ways to motivate our lives and failing that way.

[ryster]

I think an important question you and your wife need to ask yourselves (both alone and together, if you get where I'm coming from) is, why do you want to do this?

There are a lot of reasons I can think of, and each has it's own potential consequences. I am not saying you should or shouldn't (I have no real experience with this), but the decision shouldn't be taken lightly.

[siopawman]

fantasies are controlled environment...

what you are about to do surely brings excitement and possibilities...
possibilities which include happiness, pleasure, pain, havoc and disappointments.

good luck.

[supersatch]

Keep it in your fantasies. After 9 years of marrage, and no swinging, doing a three some will only become a politically correct challenge.

example:
"It seems like he fucking the other girl more that me," "he's never done that to me before," and "he's enjoying her more," type thoughts will begin. Then that night will somehow manifest itself in the arguement that had nothing to do with that situation that will enevitably happen down the road. Women forget nothing.

Now I've only had this happen in a serious relationship of which everyone is different. But this seems to be a majority situation in other cases that I've heard about.

[abcde123]

I could totally see that happening. That's why I said earlier we are looking at the same room stuff. I know that the girl/girl stuff doesn't bother me.

Although, it sounds like you are saying that a threesome wouldn't be such a challenge if we had been together for less time. ("after 9 years...") Not sure if that's what you meant, but I would have to disagree with that opinion in some cases. I think that if a committed couple is going to do it, they are probably going to be able to handle it better after they've been together. I'm talking about a committed couple...not a 'dating but no thoughts of marriage right now" couple. But of course this is all IMHO.

[davidscuthbert]

Not having any experience of this myself, i can only guess.

But, i would go for the same room approach first. Go to a swingers party and get used to the atmostphere, and sit in a group room, then start your oown activity ni the room. But don't jump in. All this talking you are doing with this other person sounds like a good idea also. get yo know them, and it still means that you can back out. Fantasising about it is fine, there is no harm done, but as soon as you actually go through with it there is no turning back.

Don't jump straight into the action, get used to it being close to you, and get closer to it. Start touching the other couple in the group room, but not on t genital zones, just to make sure that you and your wife are comfortable with it. Take it one step at a time.

I have mentioned it to my wife before in a joking manner, and she has said a flat NO!!!! So I know that it is never going to happen to me. :(

But good luck to you. Let us/me know how it went....and pics would be great!!! joking!

[Z_man]

a friend of mine was married for over ten years and he always begged his wife for a threesome, as to which she always turned him down. for there anniversary she surprised him with one and after it was all said and done she found that watching him do another woman changed her feelings and she wouldn't do anything sexual with him cause all she pictured was him banging that other girl, they ended up divorcing that year too.

so be cautious if you do go through with it