Need help, seriously!

[murphy_green]

Okay, let me set the scene. I'm at this sci-fi convention a few weeks ago, waiting in line to get an autograph from some dude. I look behind and see a very attractive young woman behind. Taking a risk, I started up a conversation, and we got to talking a lot while we waited for our turn, and it turned out we had a LOT of things in common. So after we got said autograph, we left together and spent the rest of the day hanging out around of the convention and talking some more. Closer to the end of the day, we excahnge emails and said that we will keep in touch. But the only problem there was that she lives in another state, 500 clicks to the west. A small problem, yes?

So a week later, we've been talking a lot more, finding more things in common and whatnot, then she says she wanted to know if I was single, to which I said yes. This news elated her because she admitted that she had feelings for me, and wanted to know if I felt the same way, which I did. Great news, right? I thought so, and I had never been happier!

So over the next couple of weeks we get to more talking (nothing about sex or anything like that) and we arrange for me to go over there for a few days and stay with her. Little problem, she lives with her Catholic parents, so no boys. We got around that by her booking a motel room in the city for us to stay in while I'm there. Lucky me!

So all continues on, we're both totally excited and happy to see each other in a couple of weeks, then the iceberg hits the boat. She says she has been thinking she has rushed into this, and maybe she made a mistake telling me she likes me. She still wants me to come over and spend the time with her, and we are still a couple and all that, but she thinks she is not ready to be committed to a long-distance, long-term relationship like this. All happiness has turned to darkness, and I am heart-broken.

So any davice, theories, suggestions? This girl is. for me, one in six billion, and I would do anything to keep her without being a freaky psycho.

[abcde123]

My advice is go, don't pressure, have a great time, and be yourself. Treat it like a wonderful vacation for yourself. She just needs time, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you....it just means she has a head on her shoulders and is being realistic. I mean, you are spending probably a pretty good chunk of money to come see her and she probably feels like she is expected to have sex - all this after only 1 day of actually being with you. Of course she's going to get nervous as the date approaches. Just reassure her, don't drop any sudden bombs like "I love you", and enjoy the time together. It may not work out in the long run, but don't make that a self-fulfilling prophecy by ruining this trip with her.