problem getting off

[Lou-Evil_Spycho]

Hello to all. I posted this to see if anyone had any suggestions for my issue. Please, No Banter.
I have had a problem getting off, for many years. My wife and I go at it for hours on end, the typ. session lasts for at least 2 hours. there is no problem at all with my wife, she is amazing in many ways.
I can feel everything normally, and enjoy sex VERY much, it just takes forever to actually cum. My wife usually cums 2 or 3 times before she just cant go any more. When she blows me she uses both hands and her mouth, and i can get off in a descent amount of time.
I am open to all comments, just please, no ragging.

[CD]

My ideas:

1) you're gay, you just don't know it yet
2) you need better visual stimulation
3) you aren't young and things just don't work the same as they used to

Since we really don't know anything about you or your wife, it's very hard to give you any kind of answer that's worth a shit... but saying that, I'm picking my 2nd choice.

[shiiboi]

1. Do you get off okay when you masturbate?
2. Have you always had this problem with your wife or was there a time when you got off easily with her?
3. What about your post a while ago re: using painkillers to last longer? Are you taking drugs regularly?
4. Do you have trouble getting or maintaining an erection?

If you can get off okay with masturbation, then there's nothing physically wrong. Otherwise go see a doctor.

If you got off okay with your wife in the past, there's probably nothing wrong with her technique.
Otherwise go see a sex therapist.

If you're on any meds, i.e., painkillers or antidepressants, see your doctor about switching meds.

[Indigenous]

I actually have had a similar problem. I'm not the easiest person in the world to get off. For the most part, I've considered it a blessing. Most girls have been impressed by my staying power, and can usually get off a few times, before I'm done. No one-pump chump here!

However, it has it's downside. There's few things more frustrating than trying to get off while your quads and abs are burning and screaming at you to stop or your lungs feel like they're about to burst into flames. Plus, it kind of rules out quickies.

It helps that you have a steady monogamous partner. You have someone you can "train". I only started getting off in fairly short amounts of time when I taught my partner exactly what to do.

Teach her what gets you off the fastest. If you don't know, find out. Pay attention to what it exactly is that you do when you jack off. What rhythm do you like? How much pressure and where? What positions work best?

I'm sure you have had women teach you exactly what they like and how to get them off. Now it's time to return the favor and reap the benefits.

[Thebeaveman3]

I have the same exact problem as well. Im only 22 so its not ED or anything and I can get off fine when I wack it, but when im with a girl I rarely get off. A lot of the time I go so long I end up getting bored and go limp. After about an hour I'd just usually give up. I'm in the same same boat as well when you say you can get off by oral most of the time. I just think if it isn't a problem with your wife then you shouldn't really care too much about it. And if you want to make things go quicker tell her to give more head or something. I would be interested to find out if there was anything that made you get off faster.

[Lou-Evil_Spycho]

thanks for all the advice guys.
my wife is amazing in every aspect of the word. she knows how to work it.
I think it is mostly my meds and stress level. im not an easy person to get to relax.
thanx again to all of you.

[clamsrus]

stress can sure as hell be a lust buster....and the performance thing becomes an issue which adds to it all.
Ask your doctor about your meds......may be a simple work about...a lot of heart meds especially alter the libido and performance. Also a range of compounds can increase sensitivity, and or engorgement as well as improve heart function....eg L arginine which can be taken in a slow release form and breaks down to Lysine (another amino acid) releasing Nitric oxide as a byproduct.....this causes smooth muscle relaxation and has a similar effect as Viagra which produces the same result but is long acting with slow breakdown. Nicotinic acid...a B vitamin also can cause a vascular flush, and heightened sensitivity.
Anyhow check out the chemistry....you don't want that good lady of yours getting lockjaw

[Lou-Evil_Spycho]

Clamsrus: for some reason beyond me, i actually think i understood what you were trying to explain. thanks for the help.