Cant Believe Im asking this but....

[Cards705]

Alright so I was just wondering if anybody has approached a girl at work. I have never done this and really I dont even think the girl knows Im interested in her but I think she cute. I was just going to ask her out for drinks but I was wondering if it might get awkward later...Any advice? should I stop being such a pussy and just ask her out or is there a better way to approach her?

[johnwkd1]

Well, all I can tell you from experience is this. If it does go somewhere (i.e. I've dated 2 girls from work in the past. All I can say is this....if it goes somewhere, then ends...it goes one of two ways. If it doenst end nastily, theres a chance it wont be awkward (least it wasnt for me). Matter of fact, we stayed friends. If it ends bad (the other one of mine did) it kinda sucks.

That and it depends how closely you work with the girl. If you're constantly around her, it could be swkward. If you dont see her a whole lot, it may not.

Not sure how helpful I was, but I tried :p Hell, go for it and see what happens

[Cards705]

the only time i really see her is during lunch....in the faculty lounge

[@man2girlz]

do you know anything about her? if she tells you things about herself without you asking them, it might be an indication that she's available and looking.

[Juan.Camaney]

DO NOT DIP YOUR PEN IN COMPANY INC!

EVER!

seriously

[BackdoorJesus]

yep, what juan just said.

A similar old saying to adhere to is "Don't shit where you eat."

Especially if you are (I am assuming) teachers - that kind of shit spreads like wildfire on a campus no matter now discreet you think you are going to be, and I don't think either of you would want to be the topic of those discussions.

[habjad]

woooo - DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!

as above - ALWAYS ends in pain, usually for both parties. OK if you are in remote divisions, or one of you is about to leave, but the whole "work + life" thing ends up poisoning everything about both work and life.

can - rarely - work if both young, single and have no reputation to defend

can only work if neither can ever be the "line report" of the other

[yammy]

Be adult about it from the get go. No poke n' runs, you know? Not the place for it. As for teachers, good buddies of mine both were teachers at the same school. Now married. Just be mature, communicate. If she's not into that, then be careful.

[fmb]

If you decide to go there, be up front and honest about your intentions (one night, friends with benefits, casual dating, etc). If you dip your pen, keep your mouth shut. Remember, you're in a school and as someone else pointed out, things spread like wildfire. Also, if you decide to ask her out, don't do it at work. Wait until you both are at some other function, etc.

Personally, I'd so leave that alone...

[kawligia]

Don't shit where you eat dude.

[Anibal]

Yes, just go and ask her out for drinks or a movie. But it something does happen it wont make your job any easier.

[Lou-Evil_Spycho]

this is NEVER a good idea man. Not at all.

[jabber]

So true,too close to home

[jeffc574]

First READ YOUR EMPLOYEE HANDBOOK ABOUT SEXUAL HARASSMENT. Next, Don't get your meat where you get your bacon. After that, you are both teachers. Assuming your students are over 3, they will know. The three year olds will know too, they just don't have the words for it.

Now, if you think it is still a good idea, mail out some resumes and ask her out. On the other hand, if you won't get fired (good luck if you are a teacher. Your contract probably has a morals clause you are about to break and both of you could be fired) See if she is interested and she might ask you out. Just be prepared to not work there anymore.

[travcook]

SEXUAL HARASSMENT... is what you'll get slammed with when it doesn't work out. Juan said it best... listen to his advice

[CrankyYankee]

From personal experience...I'd advise against it. If's things go south, you've got to be prepared to see her more than you'll want to. I made this screwup once and that was e-nuff!

[malichi]

I agree it isnt the best idea or the best place but most of my women have come from where I worked. Some have gotten nasty, especially when I changed women for whatever reason. But then again, I have never been a one woman man.

[Xlax]

It only gets weird when your other co-workers find out what happend. They whisper bs and all that other stuff. Its ok to ask out co-workers and usually means you have something in common at least.