Too Tight

[Pim-dem-hoes]

I know there is posts upon posts about their girl being too tight, blah blah blah but my g/f has an actual problem. Ive been talking to her for about 2 months have fooled around but she is way too tight for 2 fingers let alone my penis. She has went to the doctor for this and there is a possibility for surgery but she really doesnt talk about it because she thinks its embarassing.
My question is, does anyone know anything about this problem? Anyone ever experience this before with their g/f or themselves? Just wondering what i can do to help her out so we can enjoy sex.

[flaker]

My wife is to tight for 2 fingers as well but has no problem with my penis. It is just something that we have to live with.

[Cybermax]

Sounds like vaginismus. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus

[jeffc574]

She should get over it and see her doctor. The doc probably had to deal with something more embarrassing that day. If she is not comfortable with her Dr., she should find one she is. She will be seeing an ob/gyn for the next 20 years or more, she should be able to tell him.her anything and trust the advice.

Maybe you should stick to one finger near the clit and extra lube on Mr. Happy.

[CD]

You can bet your ass that if I had a problem that prevented me from having or enjoying sex, my Doctor would have me in his office before you can say "Shazam!"

If she's too embarrassed to see a doctor, she's going to be without a very important part of her life going forward.

[cm8]

Maybe she has been taken advantage of. I know that when I was raped I had a hard time (still do) getting sexually involved with guys. I never told my husband though. Maybe she has a history of being sexually abused and or raped. There is a condition called vaginismus . It isn't painful sex- it is a complete inability to have sex at all. It's a psychological disorder. When a woman with vaginismus attempts to have intercourse, the muscles in her vagina involuntarily clamp shut, making any entry impossible. It can be due to past sexual abuse, strict religious upbringing, fear of pain, or in some cases it appears to be caused by nothing at all.

[Pim-dem-hoes]

Ok, i mistyped, she has talked to her doctor but not to me about it.
The vaginismus sounds kind of like it but im not sure. I kinda talked to her last night about it and she said that i just need to "stretch" her out with fingers and toys until my penis can fit.

[fmb]

She has given you some ideas on how to help her. Keep the lines of communication open, and most importantly, listen to her. She knows her body better than you ever will. Let her help the situation with some ideas!

[Jimi]

No banter in the vag

Juan

[Pim-dem-hoes]

BS? Why the hell would this be BS? You think im makin it up that my g/f has too tight of a vagina and im not gettin laid? Beleive what you want buddy. Everyone else, thanks for the help.

[assyrian]

Most girls are tight if they haven't had sex... like she said you just got to stretch her out be patent pretend being in her position.

[Weezer1982]

Keep trying to loosen it up. If it doesn't work, consult a doctor so she can be diagnosed.

[Pim-dem-hoes]

I talked to her about it last night and basically instead of her vagina looking like this [ ] it does this /\ if that makes any sense. Its not vaginismus.
So bascially we have been working with it and finally got most of penis in. She can handle getting it in now before she couldn't but now its the length, it feels like im hitting a brick wall in there. Quite weird.

[Jimi]

So, she has a 2" cervix?

[kulotsalot]

A woman's cervix "retreats" when she is aroused, to elongate the vaginal canal and accommodate the penis. I'd recommend more foreplay. I don't imagine that "working to get most of the penis in" would be the type of thing that would arouse a person. Sounds more like work or a scientific experiment than foreplay, to be honest.

[Jimi]

"She blinded me with science!"

[Juan.Camaney]

What part of no banter in the vag didn't you understand Jimi? You got tons of other sub forums to go whore in. For someone that was premed, you sure don't know jack about the vaginal conditions women suffer with.

[Jimi]

Didn't realize this has become a no banter forum since it's become something other than the vag. My apologies, I think I might have actually only been here once since 2003. Other than that, all I can say is my previous studies have led me to believe that this particular post is none other than someone saying "my dick is huge".

I understand the possibility of vaginismus, but he said that he can fit two fingers, and he has already said no, it is not vaginismus. Apparently, she has a triangular shaped poontang which leads me to believe either a. she's asian with the slanty tang (pardon the banter), or b. she has a malformed vagina due to who knows what. However, the way this guy is describing the situation leads me to believe in c. he has the possible misconception that his dick is too large to fit in there.

The possibility of a prolapse is out, since she has been to the GYN and he hasn't said anything about. If she HAS been to the GYN, they would know much more of the problem than anyone on WR.

Maybe I should have clarified in the very beginning, but a guy who has 73 posts since 2003 is asking us questions that should have been answered by a professional, unless the guy is just here telling us his cock is huge.

PS, if a vagina will allow two fingers and still need a "stretch", then there is nothing that anyone on WR can help with.

Don't mistake this post as banter, this is my professionally unprofessional premed student opinion.

[Pim-dem-hoes]

Well im sorry Mr genius Jimi. This post is in no way saying "my dick is huge"
She has been to the GYN but she wont talk to me about what her GYN says. Her GYN told her that she needs to stretch for a month and then come back, thats all she tells me. And that if it hasnt gotten better that there is a possibilty of surgery. Something that would involve taking skin out of her mouth.
So Mr Jimi, since your some smart jackoff you got any other ideas?

[ryster]

I don't really see what the issue is, Pim-dem-hoes. The gyn said stretch it out and come back. So stretch it out and come back. He, of all people, is going to know what to do, so whats the big deal? If she has to have surgery then so be it, there's nothing you or anybody else can do about it.

[Dick head]

buh bye smart-ass remark

[Indigenous]

First, I would talk to her and try to get her to open up and tell you if there's any sexual abuse or assault in her past. Sometimes vaginismus-like symptoms are actually psychological and can stem from a traumatic sexual experience.

Second, next time you have sex, do everything you can to drive her insane with lust before you even attempt intercourse. Oodles of foreplay can do a lot to get the vaginal walls to relax and expand. Try getting her off before penetration is even tried.

Third and last suggestion, look into a vaginal dilator set. They're like little dildos in progressing sizes that she wear inside her.

*clicky for an example* (http://www.vaginismus.com/products/dilator_set)

- Dr. Indi

[Pim-dem-hoes]

Ok, well i went to the Gyno with her and i learned a lot of stuff. When she was an infant she had trouble with her uterers? They had to do surgery and they think something got messed up. Now she has trouble with her vaginal canal and it closes up. Indi, she has a dilator set and used it for a while and it helped.
Me and her have been having sex for a couple months now and it is a lot better. WE still have to use a lot of lube because something else is wrong with that, i get her insanely turned on and we still need lube, its no trouble from my end. But i can now fit almost all of my penis into her. The doctor says shes at a 7, but the doctor wants her at a 9, not too sure what that number correlates to.

[CD]

Ok, well i went to the Gyno with her and i learned a lot of stuff. When she was an infant she had trouble with her uterers? They had to do surgery and they think something got messed up. Now she has trouble with her vaginal canal and it closes up. Indi, she has a dilator set and used it for a while and it helped.
Me and her have been having sex for a couple months now and it is a lot better. WE still have to use a lot of lube because something else is wrong with that, i get her insanely turned on and we still need lube, its no trouble from my end. But i can now fit almost all of my penis into her. The doctor says shes at a 7, but the doctor wants her at a 9, not too sure what that number correlates to.
If this was the BOTH, I'd respond with something along the lines of the hottness rating for the 7 and 9.
Since it's the EOTH, I'll just have to tell you that we thought it was a good idea to go to the doctor and once again, "we" as a collective were right.

[Pim-dem-hoes]

Figured out a little more about this problem and found out what it actually is, MRKH syndrome.
http://www.essortment.com/all/mayerrokitansky_rknh.htm
Theres a link about it, quite weird, quite rare.

[Indigenous]

Wow, that is pretty weird. I consider myself somewhat well-versed on sexual maladies and the like, and I've never even heard of it. Anyways, glad to hear you have finally have it pegged down (so to speak). Now she and her gyno can go about treating it.

[clamsrus]

That is a really interesting link.....poorly written unfortunately but hey! it's the net and better than no information.
Congenital malformations are relatively rare and of course seldom talked about....which is a quite understandable. It varies from major internal disruption involving organ structures as in your partner's case, down to minor usually cosmetic differences because of the way the superficial vulval area has developed as the cloacal region of the embryo differentiates into it's male or female shape.....closes up to form the penis, or stays open and split down the middle as the vestibule housing the urethral opening and the vagina.

In my wife's case she had to have surgery to open the back part of the vestibule (in front of the perineal body) to allow access to the vagina. If she had had vaginal births then the stretching, episiotomy, or horrors... tearing would have sorted it but it was not to be....so the problem remained undiagnosed for 20 years.
I'm very pleased to hear you went to the gynae with her....a problem explained is a problem halved.

The vagina is one of the stretchiest bits of realestate in the body so persevere...and lets just hope the tethering adhesions from previous surgery doesn't alter the outcome.

[Lou-Evil_Spycho]

all this sounds like good advice, and dude, just listen to your girl. i am sure she is just as frustrated as you, if not worse. my advice is to just start out with your pinky finger and work your way up, until your dick fits. just be careful and dont finish her off before you have a chance to get it in. good luck to you and your girl man, i hope things work out for you two.