Small piece of advice?

[number1mikafan]

This isn't really a huge deal, but I want a little help on how to attack it. There are some great advice givers in this forum.

I go to school about an hour from where I live (with my parents). In December I was in an Improv performance with my troupe on campus and met this really nice girl who was helping us out with our show. We talked for a bit afterward and she invited me to a club to go dancing with a few of her friends and a couple of my improv troupe members.

Long story short we talked a while and I drove her to the club. We danced, made out a little, nothing too....serious. On the way home there was a HUGE snowstorm and in driving her back, it made the trip back home for me about 2-2 1/2 hours. So she invited me to stay in her room, and sleep on the floor. I woke up the next morning to her nudging me awake at 1 PM and I quickly left by giving her a hug and telling her that I'd get in touch with her through facebook, and we arranged a date for the next Friday.

I messaged her on Tuesday, and got nothing until Saturday morning when she apologized for not getting her messages. I told her I understood and I told her that we could do something on the Thursday before she left home. I gave her a call (this time) on thursday around 8, no answer. Then, not to seem stalkerish, I only called her once more at 10 and left her a message basically saying "Hey, it's Matt, give me a call if you still want to do something." Needless to say, no call.

I want two things out of this. First, I kinda liked her and I do want to get to know her a little better if she feels the same way. So I could send her a message on facebook or give her a call. And worst come to worst, I left my remote for my car stereo in her room when I stayed over that night, and now my car stereo is malfunctioning and needs the remote to work (figures).

I just got an apartment off-campus about 3 minutes away to help me be closer to school and to get away from the house. With this new factor into play, should I even go after this girl now? Should I chalk this up to a loss? And will I ever see my remote again?

Thanks guys,
-Matt

[tsmo]

call her up again. if she answers, then get that 2nd date. If she doesnt, the message should be something along the lines of. " If at all possible could I at least get the remote back for my stereo? "

I wouldnt give up just yet.. but if she keeps up with the not returning calls n such. chalk it up to her unfortunately being wishy washy... and you dont want that.

If you dont get a call back after leaving a message... post a message on her facebook calling her a whore for not returning your remote.

okay. maybe the whore part is extreme.. Im just going from the Juan point of view :)

gl.

[gen. cutter]

first: you need your remote back. that's why you have the right to keep bugging her.

second: it doesn't sound like there is a future here. (she would be in touch regularly if she was interested). so don't ask to see her, when you leave messages, for anything other then the remote! you'll look needy. just play it cool toward her, but keep calling untill she responds with how to get your remote back.

in person, you can make an advance based on the situation. on the phone, it's all buisness or she'll get away. good luck.

[Jimi]

:werd: If she was interested, she would have contacted you back in some form or another.

Get your remote and move on.

[p45fan]

Ask yourself how much you really like her. I can't speak for you, but it doesn't seem like it's life-changing. I think you'll find your attention caught elsewhere, now that you're minutes away from a uni.

[cutsdean]

I would leave a message stating that you need the remote because your stereo is on the blink, add your number and wait. If she does not ring then right it off as a bad lot. If she does ring don't be too keen, maybe offer to pop by and pick up the remote then you can see how the land lies. Either way at least you will know.