my life...

[SMonty30]

diagnosed with depression, gf dumped me, she overdoses goes into hospital, operation on her arms for something else they find, her lung collapses on new years eve, i have an underactive thyroid gland, and an undiagnosed sleeping illness, im in debt, my home is a rubbishtip, and i have no job because i dont have the energy to do it.....

where is my life going.... someone please help me out with some kick up the ass advice here.

im not looking for sympathy, and im not a self harmer, i just feel like im stuck in a fucking huge hole in the ground with no way out :(

[mstad]

You gotta make the change yourself. Nothing's gonna happen if you don't make it happen.

[SMonty30]

i have no clue where to start :(

[Queso]

get out and look for a job. don't go looking for the best paying one, just try to find something you enjoy, that makes you feel better.

[SMonty30]

i never thought of that.... sometimes you get so busy with stuff, you cant see whats right infront of you.... i saw a nice job at a local store where my friends all work.... may give that a shot

[SMonty30]

i refused medication, although my doctor didnt reccomend them at this time.... i just dont wanna end up like my mam i guess, them anti depressants can mess you up :s

[kulotsalot]

could you go on meds but just be reaaaally careful with monitoring it? I mean, you don't just wake up one day, all messed up, right? It's gotta be a slow slide. Maybe if you and your doc are really careful, you can keep on top of the meds and make sure it's not affecting you in a bad way?

don't be afraid to ask your buddies for help. if they are real friends, they'll be there for you through the bad times. especially with depression and everything else going on in your life right now you need a good support group.

[BackdoorJesus]

Queso's right - getting a job will do wonders for picking up your self-esteem as well as give you something to distract you from your other challenges.

And don't be afraid of the meds - if this is something genetic, as you indicate, chances are what you would get from an MD today would be different than what messed with your mom...advances are made every day in the treatment of depression.

hang in there man, things will get better. :)

[shiiboi]

"...i have an underactive thyroid gland..."(

Seems like most of the rest of your statement all flows from this one. You're not interested in antidepressants, but are you taking anything for your thyroid?

If you arel looking for a drug-free way to overcome your depression, remember that your life is what you pay attention to every day. Sit down and make a list of everything that you have to be thankful for in your life. It will be difficult at first because you are completely focused on the bad things right now, but give yourself a full 30 minutes and force yourself to come up with 10 things that are going right in your life right now.

[SMonty30]

i take 100mg levothyroxine once a day for the underactive thyroid gland.

took 3 months of large amounts of blood from me to diagnose it, left me exhausted and fragile that did.

[SMonty30]

ok update on this, my life has literally turned around...

they found my medication was low for my thyroid, so upped that and im feeling so much better, it seems the depression was a "side effect" of low thyroid levels, i got a job running a little shop in town :) first few days have gone well :)

its all thanks to a special girl to me, and thats our very own maggie, she has bullied me up to fighting back and getting this far. she is the most awesome girl in my life right now, and im not letting her go :)

thanks for everyones advice, i appreciate the straight talking approach, rather then the aww poor monty stuff :) you have all helped me more then you will ever know.

im even gonna take my first trip abroad this year, because i can now start thinking about affording it :) life is wonderful now, and i think its gonna be pretty damn good in the future too :D

[Wilken]

ok update on this, my life has literally turned around...

they found my medication was low for my thyroid, so upped that and im feeling so much better, it seems the depression was a "side effect" of low thyroid levels, i got a job running a little shop in town :) first few days have gone well :)

its all thanks to a special girl to me, and thats our very own maggie, she has bullied me up to fighting back and getting this far. she is the most awesome girl in my life right now, and im not letting her go :)

thanks for everyones advice, i appreciate the straight talking approach, rather then the aww poor monty stuff :) you have all helped me more then you will ever know.

im even gonna take my first trip abroad this year, because i can now start thinking about affording it :) life is wonderful now, and i think its gonna be pretty damn good in the future too :D

Nice work mate, Mags is a peach, there''s no doubt about that.

Coming to the states?

[maggiesdragons]

Nice work mate, Mags is a peach, there''s no doubt about that.

Coming to the states?


I can answer that one, he is coming to the states, we will be having a WR's get together while he is here, I want everyone who can come to be here for that.

[SMonty30]

she is my angel :) im gonna visit for 2 weeks real soon, then sort out moving perminently later in the year. she is doing some awesome work on visas, and such to help me get there.

first time im gonna be on a plane, first time going abroad, first time doing soemthing for myself. i love it, and maggie :)

[yellowfish]

thats so cool man
i was going to suggest sell everything and move to the other side of the country
that did it for me
i was very depressed in johannesburg and then moved to knysna, man whata diffrence

[SMonty30]

thats what im gonna do yellowfish. sell up and move out. :)

[roastduck]

i know it's a little late for my advice, but try and find a church you like, if that's your cup of tea. If not for the religion, go for the set of values and the people. You can talk to a church pastor about anything, and (99.99% of the time) he'll give you hi honest, no-shit opinion on what you should do. It helped me.

[SMonty30]

my experiences with religion arent that good.... maggie has ideas on that stuff anyway...

[senseimike2007]

I understand where you're coming from, I've been pretty low myself, for what it's worth, I think you might want to change your environment if at all possible, may be a lot of bad memories hanging around you at your current location.

other than that, get mad, mad as hell, kick your own ass to motivate your self. It sounds a little retarded but when my life went to shit I got in a real bad spot, but then I looked at it as a fight in a way, life was trying to beat me down, and I refused to let that happen, I fought back, and I'm better off now because of it.

[Queso]

I understand where you're coming from, I've been pretty low myself, for what it's worth, I think you might want to change your environment if at all possible, may be a lot of bad memories hanging around you at your current location.

other than that, get mad, mad as hell, kick your own ass to motivate your self. It sounds a little retarded but when my life went to shit I got in a real bad spot, but then I looked at it as a fight in a way, life was trying to beat me down, and I refused to let that happen, I fought back, and I'm better off now because of it.
he is changing his environment. he's moving to america to marry my friend :mstad:

[zand_stein]

there's nothing wrong for some changes in your life its part of growing up!

[ViperGMT]

I never knew about this thread, very interesting and cool news for me when I've been on WR since beginning of this year.
I've been reading that Mags and Monty have been together, but I've never figured out they first connected through WR.

I would never found it if I haven't seen THIS (http://forums.webrats.com/thread134628-1.html) thread.

[maggiesdragons]

I never knew about this thread, very interesting and cool news for me when I've been on WR since beginning of this year.
I've been reading that Mags and Monty have been together, but I've never figured out they first connected through WR.

I would never found it if I haven't seen THIS (http://forums.webrats.com/thread134628-1.html) thread.


Yeah, kinda crazy, but WR is where we met.

[licupssy]

SMonty30, just saw this thread. My daughter had the same problem with her thyroid which blew up pretty large and became very noticible which is how she ended up be diagnosed with it. She's been on medication for a couple years now. Glad you finally got diagnosed properly and things are turning around for you. I was wonderinbg why I haven't seen you over in BOTH. Take care of yourself!!!!

[Draggon]

So what about an update on the visit/move?
We haven't heard from Monty for a while because he's been busy right, so is it setting up for coming over?

[Queso]

i just know something about him coming over for a week in a month or so, and then going with mags and her family to hawaii the next week for her bros wedding.

[maggiesdragons]

i just know something about him coming over for a week in a month or so, and then going with mags and her family to hawaii the next week for her bros wedding.


He will be her oct 26th, fingers crossed. He will be going back home Nov 11th.

[yellowfish]

he is gonna need lots of red bulls :)

[maggiesdragons]

he is gonna need lots of red bulls :)



I find it funny my mom planned it so that my son wasn't here for a week then she told me to behave.

[facepeeler]

SMonty30, just saw this thread. My daughter had the same problem with her thyroid which blew up pretty large and became very noticible which is how she ended up be diagnosed with it. She's been on medication for a couple years now. Glad you finally got diagnosed properly and things are turning around for you. I was wonderinbg why I haven't seen you over in BOTH. Take care of yourself!!!!


you do realize this thread was started last year, right?


that being said, Cinn and I met indirectly because of a message board. We happened to be on the same local message board, and one of the guys planned a party, and everyone was invited. So of course I go, because that's how I roll. That's the night we met, almost 3 years ago.

[yellowfish]

I find it funny my mom planned it so that my son wasn't here for a week then she told me to behave.


hey all i will say is use protection






people just dont realise how important sunglasses are :)

[Draggon]

hey all i will say is use protection
"Of course, I had my 9mm automatic".

[maggiesdragons]

people just dont realise how important sunglasses are :)


:werd:

I even wear them when its cloudy.

[SMonty30]

its still on...

me and maggie have been on the phone, chatting writing letters, emailing for a year and a little bit. cant wait to get over there hehe.

thyroid medication went up to 150mg, and im happy to say i never needed anti depressants. :) health aint to bad at all.