wedding problems

[tmcsaint72]

ok so i am getting married next june and am really excited to be taking this step and to vow myself to my wonderful fiance...however we have decided that we want to have a small wedding party (groomsmen and such) yet i have around seven guys i want to stand with me and i have no idea how to pick just three of them...any advice would be greatly appreciated

thanks
saint

[r47mie]

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[SMonty30]

r47mie, this is a serious discussion section, smart ass comments are not tolerated, not a good start for you there, not at all.

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[r47mie]

How can you talk about serious when you are going to get married. What is it about a woman that wants to spend the rest of her life making one man miserable...If you dont have a sense of humour............dont get married.................

[michaeljohn]

How can you talk about serious when you are going to get married. What is it about a woman that wants to spend the rest of her life making one man miserable...If you dont have a sense of humour............dont get married.................
your opinion of serious doesn't matter. What does is this forum. Serious replies only.

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[****Emma****]

Since no one replied seriously to the threadstarter...


If you only want 3 then pick the ones closest to you or the ones you've known the longest(but you've probably already thought of that)



If all else fails...draw straws...good luck on your big day!

[maggiesdragons]

Another option, see if any of them would be okay with the other roles in the wedding, like ushers, runners, sound?, video?, if nothing else they will be happy that you asked, it shouldn't be too big of a deal who stands next to you as long as they are there for you and support you. After all they are your friends and true friend would understand that there can only be three up there with you. That leaves 4 to do something else. Maybe the one who throws your bachelor party takes a seat at the wedding?

[nikolagulin]

sit them all down have a joke with them.. then do the three longest straws get to be ur best men.

[mstad]

Tell them that they're all good friends to you, and that you can't decide. Then have them decide themselves(away from you) who it's gonna be. :dunno:

[tmcsaint72]

i really like that idea mstad i might go with that

thanks to those that posted serious replies

[durden]

i will have to say that take the three guys that you have known the longest or like th emost, whatever. take them, put them in your wedding party. the others, have been ushers. you can never have enough ushers. it makes youre wedding guests feel more welcomed. trust me, im going through exactly what your going through. good luck my friend.

[jeffc574]

Pick the three you are closest to. Invite the rest. The other four probably didn't really want to rent a tux anyway.

[shiiboi]

saint72: you're really lucky to have 7 guys you consider that close... there's no way to avoid hurt feelings.

we don't know you or them, so we can't really help you without more info. certainly if any of them are family then they've got to be in. beyond that only you can decide who counts. good luck. the next obstacle will be deciding the seating arrangement at the reception.

[lovesit]

i really like that idea mstad i might go with that


I understand mstad's suggestion, but I think you ought to consider this as a decision you need to make yourself.

You know that most men are not as tied emotionally to something like a wedding. The guys would probably be more offended if they were uninvited to the bachelor party. Your friends/relatives who you think would be hurt if not chosen - those are the ones to put in the party. This will be easy to explain to the others.

And congratulations!

[krazycat08]

Congrats on your wedding - IMO - its your wedding, so make your choices, don't worry about feelings of others (in this case). If these guys are your friends, then they will understand your choices. If not, then tuff 4 them. If any of them are family, they should understand also. You can discuss it with your fiance, get input from her also. And the suggestion about other duties (ushers, runners, etc) for the ones u don't ask to stand is a good one.
Good luck - marriage is great, btw...despite what r47mie says...

[mtn1111]

hi
if i were you i would tell all of them you would like them with you but as its only a small wedding party you can only have three of them, then get them to draw straws for it and none of them will feel snubbed and you dont have to worry about picking the three. there you go, sorted

[Nubclub]

Howa 'bout just letting them fight for the position???

[SMonty30]

nubclub although i can see the humour in that, this is the serious discussion section, go to BOTH with that kindo thing

anyway

man, i gotta say wow! id love to have 7 friends i feel that strongly about as good solid friends :D as has been reccomended, have them discuss it out, or just give them some other duties during the wedding to ease the situation a bit, and congrats on getting married :D

[Juan.Camaney]

Chose one. At random. If you chose more than one, they will feel like you picked a favorite. If you chose one, they know you picked one at random because you will tell them that.

Seriously tho, why is she forcing you to do 7?


You could still do 7 and have them stand somewhere else, and each bring up different things at different parts of the ceremony...have one do the speech, one do the toast, one do the ring, etc.

[rebellious-D]

first off congradulations second off ...im not quite sure but dont worry the anser will come to you

[tmcsaint72]

Chose one. At random. If you chose more than one, they will feel like you picked a favorite. If you chose one, they know you picked one at random because you will tell them that.

Seriously tho, why is she forcing you to do 7?


You could still do 7 and have them stand somewhere else, and each bring up different things at different parts of the ceremony...have one do the speech, one do the toast, one do the ring, etc.

shes not we are having a small party like 3 or 4 and i have seven friends i would like to have up there with me but cant...any way after i recent dispute with who i thought was my best friend ( he basically got really drunk and told me to get the fuck off his property) my decision has gotten easier

[phillychief]

guys would understand pick 3 that like to dress up. and if that doesn't seperate the pack then make the single guys that might have trouble getting a date. you could also choose based on hieght you should be the tallest

[yhanix]

hi

[Conan9]

Tell all seven of them that you want them to be in the wedding but unfortunately you can only have three. Tell them that you cannot choose only three because they are all important to you. Suggest drawing straws or numbers. I think they will understand.

[flying cheeto]

hey man im getting married on january 20th 17 days to go yeppy lol

but anyway i have learned the hard way that nothing about the wedding is up to the man. its her day do what will make her happy or you will be unhappy for a long time.

[maggiesdragons]

Just remember that when everyone is looking at her, she will be looking at you!