Really hot girl REAKS at end of day

[Ragnarok Comes]

I'm really into this girl at school, I'm a junior in college, but sometimes at the end of the day she reaks of sweat. She commutes to school and it's not all the time, but it's baaad when her deordorant runs out.

I dunno how to tell her. Maybe thru a female proxy?

Thanx

[tsmo]

Are you guys dating? If your not dating,. then just steer clear? If your dating, then its a touchy subject. Most women want you to believe that honesty is the best answer. Well, I honestly told an ex gf that the stretch pants she wore, just didnt work for her.. Thats why shes an ex.. so, Honesty yes, how to relay that message... I dunno..

If you think she can handle it. tell her she needs a stronger deoderant. Some womens bodies just sweat more than others.

Good Luck

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I wish we dating, more on that later.

We do hang out alot & it can get over powering.

Unfortunate story, though. Glad for the help.

[theleetbeagle]

To convey this without acting like a dick, you need to tell her by making yourself look humble.

For example, say this: Listen, her_name, I'm going to tell you something, but understand that the exact same thing happened to me.

Then go into some story about how a friend of yours said u had terrible BO or mouth odor, etc and how you fixed it.

Even if its not true, by making yourself seem like you're also a mere mortal, she won't think negatively of your criticism.

[tsmo]

ha. yes, she will think negatively of his criticism.

Put it this way, If you tell her, outright, hey hun, you have this stinky aroma about you.. shes gonna say. hey thanks. and then dump your ass on principle.

To me. There is no koy way to tell a women she stinks.

You'll be stuck for the rest of your relationship with.. hey hun. Lets go hop in the shower 1st..

Even offering that her deoderant isnt holding up is grounds for dumping..

I would like to see some of the WR women chime in on this though,. I'd love to see what they have to say on this.

[jeffc574]

There really is no gentle way to tell your friend she stinks at the end of the day. You might try gently bringing up odors, maybe when someone with strong perfume walks by. It may be a medical condition on her part and nothing helps.

[durden]

wow...i feel bad for you man. honesty from you in this situation wont work. a female proxy may but you can not have a hand in it.

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It's funny b/c last semester she wore this Gardenia perfume and it drove me nuts, it made me wish were in an orange grove alone, under the warm Florida sun...Now that it's out of season, we have this problem.

[shiiboi]

It's funny b/c last semester she wore this Gardenia perfume and it drove me nuts, it made me wish were in an orange grove alone, under the warm Florida sun...Now that it's out of season, we have this problem.

I'm guessing she wore strong perfume because she already knows that she stinks. If you want to give her the hint without getting clobbered, you might try letting yourself get stinky one day, and comment on your own odor. That would be humbling yourself & calling attention to a problem without embarrasiing her. It's like when someone warns a friend that they have something stuck in their teeth by playing with their own teeth. The friend subconsciously picks up the message and checks...

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ahhhh how wise shiiboi-san

[maggiesdragons]

find out what type of sent of deodorant she like then buy the Soft & Dri Power Strip Deodorant version of it, they have it for females too even though they only advertise for men, keep it at your place, take a shower with her and then tell her she can use it if she wants, it works really well.

[Ragnarok Comes]

"take a shower with her and then tell her she can use it if she wants"

while that sounds incredible, you guys are jumping the gun a little here.

I still have to make the whole thing official.

Everything is still in the "more than a friend, less than a boyfriend" stage.

More on that if inquisitive minds so desire...

[gocatgo]

find out what type of sent of deodorant she like then buy the Soft & Dri Power Strip Deodorant version of it, they have it for females too even though they only advertise for men, keep it at your place, take a shower with her and then tell her she can use it if she wants, it works really well.

That is very clever.

[maggiesdragons]

"take a shower with her and then tell her she can use it if she wants"

while that sounds incredible, you guys are jumping the gun a little here.

I still have to make the whole thing official.

Everything is still in the "more than a friend, less than a boyfriend" stage.

More on that if inquisitive minds so desire...


Okay, I understand, you could let her take a shower by her self, but just the same, let her know that it is there for her to use.

[Devone16]

that whole situation sucks....... good luck!

[supersatch]

Try making an innunendo or slight joke of it. Nothing for her to take seriously, but just quickly put it through her mind. other than that make the comment about yourself.

[rebellious-D]

femail proxy good way to go

[AG>SR]

....It may verywell be an emission from her environment....

..does she live in a basement, is she a cook, does she live or work with around anything that has that permiating smell?

...somethings act like an olfactory 'INK'......and takes days to wash out ...


....or it might have alot to do with her diet....

.....eitherway , if you take her out, go somewhere that stinks, go for a horseback ride or a boxing match, or maybe to a drag race....


...good luck, dirty girls need lovin too......__J

[phillychief]

sometimes it can be clothing is she hasn't laundered them in a while too i agree find out the do she uses and recommend another that works great for you even though you 're a guy and she should try it. or reccommend how great the do wipes work for you

[Conan9]

There is no way that I know of that you can effectively deal with this issue. It says something about her that she would not notice it herself and be self-conscious. Only a very close friend can discuss this with someone. The subtle way to get a message across is not to get too close to her later in the day. If she asks you why blame it on yourself and tell her that you are very sensitive to scents later in the day and you fear that you might offend her when your bath and deodorant wear off. Perhaps she will get the message.

[Nesmall2]

yea if i were you, i would not really get into it or talk to her about it. The main thing to remember is that you too are not her friend or she does not know you i guess. So your best bet would be try talking to one of her close friends, and tell them about it. They might try to help you, or tell you that they already tried and she dont listen.

[Igby]

You could maybe do it anonymously via email or something like that...if you put it nicely...

[mntlfngrs]

Just ask her if she'll join you for a shower because you both stink. She'll say "you don't stink" and you will stay quiet. Or maybe she'll just say OK!
Either way.

[arosch]

Good advise...perhaps the deodorant could come as part of a hygene package, say eletric tooth brush, toothpaste, body powder, shower gel/loofa...
The 'easy' gift, however cheesy, for a female is the bath stuff...in fact I don't mind getting that stuff too...
I had this great smelling deodorant that made me REEK at the end of the day...I changed brands/product to one that actually wasn't as strong in odor. It must have been my body chemistry or something, because it was never a problem again. Try Mitchum stuff...it's very light-smelling but kicks BO's ass! I think it even kills bacteria so the smells don't begin.
You're in a tough spot there, but I'm sure a small investment in a 'gift' (or something that she could use when she comes over) and some tact will result is a positive outcome.

[OSR4EVR]

just dropship a crate of deoderent to her house , but no return address


she will get the clue :)

[alumni72]

Ragnarok, did this problem have a happy ending?

I just spotted it, so I know my advice is not exactly timely, but I'd have simply asked her if she just got done working out - try to tie it into a compliment about what great shape she's in.

[BlackPearlSpace]

There is no easy way out of this situation. If you pussyfoot around, and try hinting at it, she'll probably still be just as offended, and even more so that you tried being sneaky about it.

Women don't want to hear the truth, especially if you're both still in evaluation mode. If you're good friends, or have been together a long time, then you can be honest. If you're still in the evaluation mode, definately not. Most women are fickle creatures, and are just looking for a reason to cut you loose. By sticking around, you're just proving that a) you have one or more things that she likes enough to keep her interested, and b) you've not set off any alarms about things she doesn't like. Commenting on something negative will just make you look negative.

Women don't think like we do. There is no way to just logically state a fact and have it devoid of emotional reaction. Therefore, you're options are limited. You can:

-learn to live with it. untill you get to another stage in the relationship then mention it. who knows, her brain may twist this into: omg, he's soooo sweet. he put up with that just cause he likes me, omg.

-use a female proxy. but come on, do you really think someone who is close enough to her to deliver the news as a good friend is gonna respect you're arrangement? hell no. they are friends, not you, and they will talk. guaranteed.

-go for broke. my personal favourite. have some balls, be blunt, and say something direct, firm, and with only a tiny hint of cockiness. not enough to be mean, but enough to show her you're a man and will stand your ground on issues. don't start rambling. just say your point, state a fact. it can help to use "I" statements. make it about how when she does something, this is how you feel. i.e., when you smell bad, I feel like it prevents me from getting close to you. that's it. don't start rambling cause you'll dig yourself a huge hole. don't compromise, and try to make excuses for her. just state a fact and how it makes you feel.

if it goes well, and you handle it tactfully, she'll see that you're man enough to speak your mind. also, the timing of this is important. you need to make this statement at the right time and place. when no one else is around, and when she has an opportunity to fix it. 5 min before you leave on a date is not the right time, that's just mean.

it's very likely that she is aware of this situation, and is already feeling awkward about it. your directness may help her drop the stressful worrying about how you feel, which is what not saying anything and pussyfooting will make her feel like. if she's mentally well balanced, she'll hopefully laugh, and let out a big sigh, and then the real conversation will start. she'll say she's embarrassed about it and doesn't know what to do. and you'll win some bigtime points for being a man.

if she freaks out, well then, guess what. I just saved you 5 months of bullshit before you figure out on your own that she was a psycho bitch. win-win really.
good luck. and please, let us know how it goes. nothing is worse than giving advice to ppl who never come back to let us know.

[uacmarine]

get her a bath and body works gift basket on a date or something...but yeah, im w/ nearly everyone else that a direct or indirect revelation to her on the issue would be relationship suicide

[BradleyNIN]

Stop bathing so you start to smell too. Then when she says something tell her the only way you'll shower is if she takes one with you....

[hugooo]

just tell her the truth, she will understand

[Jpap013]

Did you 2 end up dating?

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Wow...
My fault everyone. I did NOT at all realize this thread was still alive.
Kinda douche, eh?

Uh...I'll post an update manana. It's 0410 here in Rome, so I gotta get to sleep and what not. Apologies for the future double-post, but I wanted to post that I'm an idiot.

Thanks everyone for your time and all.

~ Ragnarok

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Okay, I've got you guys up to speed now in another thread as I have bigger issues with this girl than BO. She seems to have it under control anyway.

Link to new thread:
Epic girl problem/issue (related to my other thread) (http://forums.webrats.com/thread138385.html)

Thanks again guys,
Ragnarok