GF trouble,i Think

[BR3T7]

Well i recently found out that my GF of about a year blew me off saying she had to work when she realy hangs out with a guy that has been away for a while that is very "fond" of her. to make the problem worse she told her friend (whom i found this out from) not to tell him that we were dateing. the next day i go on holidays for a week and during that time my good friend takes his GF out to dinner and guess who he sees, my gf with that guy. WTF DO I DO

[BackdoorJesus]

Dude - do you really need to ask here WTF you should do?

cut and run brutha; and don't look back.

[facepeeler]

first you need to find a big ass stick, and start swinging that sucker as hard and as fast as you can.

actually, what you need to do is make your displeasure VERY vocal, as I have been known to do. And if your "girlfriend" is doing shady shit like that behind your back, it's time to give her the pink slip, and pull her application.

She might tell you that there's nothing going on, that it's all with innocent intentions, but that's a load of crap. SOMEONE is out for something, be it her or him. One of the two are trying to get laid. Trust me on this, I've proved this theory time and time again.

[elbenio]

Yeah it definately sounds like it's time to move on down the road, and leave her thumbing for a ride.

[shiiboi]

...to make the problem worse she told her friend (whom i found this out from) not to tell him that we were dateing.
??
Waitaminit. There's an awful lot of people who know about this "BIG" secret. Time to ask your GF what's REALLY going on.

[CWB]

yeah man ...

a couple of different thoughts here ...

maybe she wants to end the relationship and isn't capable of being honest enough tell you ... so , she is setting up a situation , hoping that you WILL get mad ... blame it on YOU time .

she could be doing the stepping stone thing ... have a guy waiting THEN she terminates her relationship with you in one way or another (see the above) .

the bottom line is that she has no respect for you and has proven this thru lies and deception ...
she is looking for a reason to justify her actions ... you getting mad would be part of this ... cooler heads shall prevail .

personally , i would calmly tell her in person simply that it is "over" ... turn and walk away ... let her own her own misdeeds in this . let her keep the anger and hostility . in this , you most likely won't be giving her what she needs to run her scam on you ... and that will affect her more than all the angry words you could say .

[skept]

Its really simple what you do - leave.

No woman and no man is ever worth stressing over. If you suspect they are cheating - leave. If they are cheating leave. If he/she blatently lies leave.

Don't try to salvage something just so 'its like old times' its not worth it. You should realise that all the time you have spent struggling to make him/her happy or trying to keep onto a relationship that is going down hill is only cutting into the time that you could be meeting someone who will truely love, support and appreciate you.

I'd rather lose and start again then have to fight the same battles over and over again.

[SMonty30]

yeah man ...

a couple of different thoughts here ...

maybe she wants to end the relationship and isn't capable of being honest enough tell you ... so , she is setting up a situation , hoping that you WILL get mad ... blame it on YOU time .

she could be doing the stepping stone thing ... have a guy waiting THEN she terminates her relationship with you in one way or another (see the above) .

the bottom line is that she has no respect for you and has proven this thru lies and deception ...
she is looking for a reason to justify her actions ... you getting mad would be part of this ... cooler heads shall prevail .

personally , i would calmly tell her in person simply that it is "over" ... turn and walk away ... let her own her own misdeeds in this . let her keep the anger and hostility . in this , you most likely won't be giving her what she needs to run her scam on you ... and that will affect her more than all the angry words you could say .

exactly there, it actually pisses them off more when your not pissed off :D

i went out with a girl for 2 months, and turned out i was her bit on the side, and that hurt like hell, i wish i was as cool as the advice quoted here is, then id be totally better in my mind about it :)

honestly, just say its over, and walk away, and you will be the winner in all this, :D

[gamble61]

I love all of the psychology from some of the posts.....you cant have a relationship without trust.....apparently it aint there...time to be the man and hit the road...

[jmb8523]

She might tell you that there's nothing going on, that it's all with innocent intentions, but that's a load of crap. SOMEONE is out for something, be it her or him. One of the two are trying to get laid. Trust me on this, I've proved this theory time and time again.
ughword If it was totally innocent then she wouldn't be lying about it and telling her friend not to tell you. Sounds like something's definitely up. I would have to agree with everyone and say drop her. Trust is one of the biggest things holding a relationship together, once that's gone, nothing else works.

[phillychief]

i agree with face peeler

[embi3n]

??
Waitaminit. There's an awful lot of people who know about this "BIG" secret. Time to ask your GF what's REALLY going on.

ughword

[Devone16]

I don't know how much of a fighter you are, but I would bust ole dude in the face and tell your girlfriend to kick rocks. The conversation would go somthing like this... " Bitch!, Get your ho ass out my muthafukin house, and take your weak punk ass lover with you!!!"

Thats just me

[jeffc574]

Time for new GF. Just tell her, you found out, good bye.

[Spyder1gDSM]

just be a man and tell her directly that you know the truth and end things with her. and if her ass ever comes crawling back, don't give in. girls like that aren't worth wasting your time on.

[TJones]

Let the door hit her in the ass...she's gotta go. This IS trouble...don't think about it anymore. Every moment from here on out is another moment that you will never get back. SHE does not have the maturity or committment to be in a relationship with you...it would be nothing but counterproductive for you to try to force it. Cut and run...don't get violent...he participated, but the reality is: she is the one doing the wrong (supposedly, he doesn't even know about you...how can he be the stand-up guy with her going out of her way to hide you from him?). Don't blame him...blame her. She's trash.

[Conan9]

Hmmmm.......your major problem is not with the guy but her. She has violated the very basics of good character and that is violation of trust and dishonesty. Although painful for you I would suggest that you consider yourself lucky to have found this out and move on before you have more time invested. Have you heard the saying, "A tiger never loses it's stripes?" If she did it once, she will do it again.

[pobo827]

get some revenge, remember she doesn't know that you know what is going on, act like your cheating on her, then break it off and go happily into the sunset

[Ghetto Radio]

do what exactly pobo827 said but after you act like your cheating on her and get her back just dump her so she'll feel more miserable for dating two guys at the same time. I would've dumped her long time ago boy lol

[arosch]

Roger that...You need to talk to her and see what going on...
Even if 'nothing' is going on, she needs to know how you feel... That you feel like you're being ditched for the other guy, and you just want to know what is going on. Now this will come across to her in a number of ways, the one to avoid being the psycho jelous BF...however, your concern could turn her off or turn her on...
Long story short = talk to her, find out what's going on...don't get upset unless it's time to fold.
BTW, sorry to hear of your troubles. I hope it's just a misunderstanding. Fight the good fight.

[mainstay]

CWB yeah man ...

a couple of different thoughts here ...

maybe she wants to end the relationship and isn't capable of being honest enough tell you ... so , she is setting up a situation , hoping that you WILL get mad ... blame it on YOU time .

she could be doing the stepping stone thing ... have a guy waiting THEN she terminates her relationship with you in one way or another (see the above) .

the bottom line is that she has no respect for you and has proven this thru lies and deception ...
she is looking for a reason to justify her actions ... you getting mad would be part of this ... cooler heads shall prevail .

personally , i would calmly tell her in person simply that it is "over" ... turn and walk away ... let her own her own misdeeds in this . let her keep the anger and hostility . in this , you most likely won't be giving her what she needs to run her scam on you ... and that will affect her more than all the angry words you could say .

Nuuuf said, CWB hit all the bases & that's exactly what's go'in on! :yamon:







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[senseimike2007]

bahhh.....these guys are totally right, but in my book, you'll feel 10 times better if you break up with her after beating the dog crap out of him. catch the two of them together, put one up side his head, stomp him into the ground, flip her off, call her the big "c" word, and jet out of there before the cops show up.

now, this 100% the WRONG thing to do, but it'd make me feel better, just cuz I know every time they were together he'd remember his ass whooping, the sheer embarrassment of it would cause him to dump her, thus eventually screwing her over in the end.

again, 100% bad advise here.

[jmd1280]

dump her ass. There are WAY more fish in the sea, lots of whom are faithful!

introduce her to me, i foud out after 7 years i was cheated on the WHOLE time, so i got a thing against cheaters ;)

[SILNCR]

Take a dump in a paper bag and hide it somewhere around her house.

Then dump her ass

[hugooo]

dude... its over no offense, go find a new woman

[beard]

Fuck her right in the :butbounce :idbutt: ass :idhitit: bust a fat nut all over her face :juan: then wipe your dick on her pillow and tell her fuck :fawkd: you :smileyfk: you lying :liar3: trick and :ta: roll out :clemson: . Man up a little never hurt's. :shoot2: