Girl Help!!!

[TheTicToc]

I am an 18 year old male and I went on a road trip with 3 other girls that were 17. So we get a room at a motel to stay in. Two queen beds,,, so one of the girls had to sleep with me. None of them cared because we are all really good friends. So it is 2 AM and we are all getting tired and go under the covers. I start rubbing the girls back and my hand is on top of her shirt. I do that for about 5 minutes and then go under her shirt. (BTW, she is turning 18 in two months) I keep rubbing for another 5 minutes on her back and under her shirt---and she whispers to me "that is really soothing". So then I lift her shirt up more so I can rub her whole back and she wasn't wearing a bra... No you couldn't see her boobs and I wasn't trying to take her shirt off... I continue rubbing her back and she tells me again how soothing my hand rub is and how she really likes it. So I do it a little bit longer and decide why not try going in her pants...After thinking about if I should do it or not... I finally did. And She was like "what are you doing... I forgot what I said, but I started rubbing her back again and we just kept talking to each other... and then we were making out.... and then she stops and says that she couldn't do this...She has never gone this far with any guy (no guy has put his own hands into her pants,,,,I am the first to do that with her) She hasn't given me all the reasons why... but she said she doesn't want her friends to think of her different and things to be weird since that we are best friends. Anyway... we talk for like another hour about it and I completely jsut open up to her,,, telling her how I was attracted to her and how I was attracted to another girl, but I wasn't so sure who to go with... and I was going to ask her to prom or this other girl (which was in the other bed)... So she is really confused and she doesn't know... I wanted to ask her to prom in a romantic/shocker way, but she knows that I will ask her to prom now or the other girl taht was sleeping in the other bed...

So she is driving me back home in her car and its a two hour drive back. It is just us two in the car and we talk about it.... I said, "since cause of last night, I guess you rejected me for prom, so can you help me with the other girl". ANd she was like I never rejected you..... so 20 minutes later I was like.... So are you going to help me get this other girl to prom .... and she was not willing to help... cause she said that I could ask that one girl or her to prom... I got confused and she told me that she still doesn't know who I will ask out of the two... so it will kind of shock her if I do ask... And I am going to ask her to prom though.

I told her how amazing her body was and how much we have in common.... and seriously we do. Her and I are still best friends and she is completely cool with what happened in the bed... she just didn't want to do it...

So I am writing all this because I need help... I want to ask her to prom...,,, but then I also want to go out with her... how can I get her to do this...
This is how I am going to ask her to prom.... my friend works at Starbucks. So I am going to take her and our other really close friends to Starbucks (total of 5 people, including me and her)... Now my friend is going to write on the chalkboard "Her name, will you go to the prom with me? My Name" and she will see this when she orders her coffee and hopefully she says yes.... and I don't care if she says no...

But any advice will help me out a lot.

[tsmo]

lol.. "I dont care if she says no" thats fucking hilarious. your post so shows that indeed :)


dude.. you already told this girl you were thinking of asking her to the prom. She isnt going to help you with the other girl, because youve already told her you were attracted to her. she most likely EXPECTS you to ask her now.

suggestion.. DONT FUCK AROUND with a chalk board. or any other bullshit. Just ASK HER. so.. Will you go to the prom with me. too easy dude. as for going out with you.. after the prom, if ya'll have had a good time. ask her out to dinner at a later time.

Im sorry if I sound so blunt. but ya'll make it way more difficult than it has to be. as with everything that relates to women. CONFIDENCE is key my friend. Youve already established with this girl that you like her. Just ask her to the prom.

lets us know how it goes. enjoy the dance. and have a rubber handy ;) cause ya just never know..

[tontor33]

I have to agree with tsmo, asking her directly is the way to go... it's not like you are asking her to marry you or anything, so why go through all of the theatrics? Just look her in the eyes, man up, and ask her to go with you.

Now, that being said, you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend with this girl as well...eh? The first thing that I would do is to stop talking to her about who you are attracted to and asking her to help you with other girls... especially when the other girl is friends with both of you guys. Talking like that is what will get you a permenant banishment into the "friend's zone", most likely with BOTH girls.

You two already messed around, why not just plant a kiss on her while you are out hanging around and make your intentions with her clear and official? From what you said, I doubt that this girl knows what you want and I can see why she might be acting a little aprehensive with you...

Bottom line... less talk, more smooch, and NO talking about other girls you like. Good luck man and however it works out, have fun at prom.

[TheTicToc]

Thanks for the advice... I am going to do the chalkboard thing at Starbucks still because a lot of girls told me it was a really good idea,,, but I am also going to turn to her and say the same lines about asking her to prom! ----Like you said- Man Up! So ya,,, I should say it also cause then that would show her how much I have confidence to ask her. I am doing this wensday afternoon.

I will tell you what happens!

[SantaClawz]

You shouldnt have told her that your decicion for prom was between her and her best friend. But the starbucks thing will probally produce a 'Yes', but not because its a creative way of doing it. I just think she'll say yes no matter how you ask her. For the simple fact that she never rejected you and she wasnt willing to help you get some other girl to go to prom.

[tsmo]

wtf? repost much?

[Cheeba Monkey]

wtf? repost much?

That and this is the wrong forum for this. I thought relationship problems go in the Vag. I could be wrong though. But my advice is just get the courage to always be yourself, no matter what.

[deathbyfire]

aite man im paste some shit u typed quote "cause she said that I could ask that one girl or her to prom... I got confused and she told me that she still doesn't know who I will ask out of the two... so it will kind of shock her if I do ask... And I am going to ask her to prom though.

I told her how amazing her body was and how much we have in common.... and seriously we do. Her and I are still best friends and she is completely cool with what happened in the bed... she just didn't want to do it..."

since u and her have ALOT IN COMMEN AS U SAY then maybe shes might be the one and her being open with u and understanding the way u felt that night shows that shes has to listens to what u say u should be lucky 3 girls as best friends damn why cant i have any girl friends well cant blame u for being confused but she already knows u are attaracted to her in a good way and shes open for it so maybe u can u know get to know her more and yes its aite to get a girl whos not into the sex scene u dont want one of them and who know how to sukk good or have nice sex man get one that will be nice and true to you and not care what ur like in bed cuz personality is all that matters or so they say but yea good luck with it i wish i had ur luck

[jeffc574]

Ask her to the prom today. The starbucks thing may or may not work. I (ok High school as a long time ago for me) would go with face 2 face. Ask her and tell she is your first choice. Not because you felt her up, but because you like her and you are good friends. Do not under any circumstances bring up the other girls other than to say you did not ask anybody but her.

Have a good time. Backrubs can lead to front rubs amoung friends.

[Dr. Weezil]

Spin the choice of two angle properly and you can really get her into you.

Oh, and next time you're in that situation, bring wine, it helps...

[kulotsalot]

merged the thread from EOTH with the one in the Padded Room. The EOTH thread is now gone.

[kulotsalot]

It's stupid to go up to a girl and say "Hey, I like you, but I like this other girl, too. You think you can help me ask the other girl out?" That's basically what you did, and if I were the girl in question, I would never ever say yes to prom or going out with you. You're basically making her feel like she's your "spare tire" and the other girl is your first choice. No one wants to be the person you settle for. I think you screwed this one up pretty bad.

[Bigeme]

I agree with kulots. My only suggestion would be to talk to her straight up and say you were scared of rejection so you thought that you would ask the other girl, but you really want to go with backrub girl.

[jace319]

Ask her to the prom today. The starbucks thing may or may not work. I (ok High school as a long time ago for me) would go with face 2 face. Ask her and tell she is your first choice. Not because you felt her up, but because you like her and you are good friends. Do not under any circumstances bring up the other girls other than to say you did not ask anybody but her.

Have a good time. Backrubs can lead to front rubs amoung friends.

Agreed...never bring up interest in another girl if you want something to happen with her. BTW, friends don't let friends do friends (really good friends that is). If you still want to go after, be direct...have confidence...get straight to the point.

[Anibal]

BIG mistake telling her there was another girl in your mind, there should only be one girl and that should be the one u ask to prom... dont ever say to a woman you are between two of them, it sounds like u want her to do something to prove to you that u should "pick" her over the other one, that usually doesnt work.

[CWB]

i have to agree with the others that indicated that you made a grave error when you brought "the other girl" into the situation . turn it around ... how would you feel if the situation were reversed ?
personally speaking (just a suggestion) , i would apologize to the "backrub girl" ... clean up this "fender bender" before it turns into a total crash and burn ... you'll feel better for doing it .

[est is best]

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[mushroomvr6]

all i have 2 say is wtf were u thinkin telling the girl u really like that u cant decide between her or her mate.(.)(.) or (.)(.)= 0..# a black eye

[10010101001012]

dude sounds like she is into it jus a bit scared, maybee you could have tried some belly\tit before scarin her off i think your black board plan sounds like GOLD though, classy she will love it